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So my boyfriend is muslim and his mother is very religious and says that he cant not marry out of his religion because she says its forbidden in there religion and she says that he has to marry his cousin. What can I do about it ? I thought muslim men could marry who they want ?
This is common in the Jewish faith as well. And in the other faiths as well (Baptist, Catholicism, etc..) Of course any religion prefers it's practitioners to be 'pure' in their faith but I'm pretty sure that most all religions, including Islam, states that God gave us free will. It is ultimately up to him if he will listen to his mother or be his own man. Personally, I wouldn't get my hopes up. A man's mother is a powerful influence on him and has always been there for him, raised him, clothed him, fed him, and will always love him no matter who else comes along.
As a mom I can tell you that it is more that she wants what she believes to be best for him because she loves him. It is natural and healthy for a mother to be concerned about the welfare of their children. But moms are human and humans make mistakes in the way they go about things.
You're 17. You have your whole life ahead of you. If it is true love then nothing will come between you but in all honesty it may be what I call a 'learning love'. With every person we meet in our life and every relationship we create (romantic or otherwise) we learn more about life, others, and most importantly ourselves.
Let nature take it's course. If it's meant to be it will be. If not, take the lessons learned from this and cherish them for the opportunity to learn.
Just a small question to think about for you. Have you put effort into learning about his faith? Understanding it and it's place in his life? Regardless of what religion it is, religion is an important part of who we are (even the lack of religion). It defines us in our beliefs and how we see the world. If you were to marry you would need to learn about his religion anyway and should want to if you care about him because it is part of who he is and what makes him, him.
Perhaps Mom would look more favorably on you if you showed an interest in their religion, showing that you respect them and her son and care enough to learn about something that is clearly very important to them.
Lol, Muslim men can marry a Christian or a Jewish woman. The only reason parents prefer their sons to marry a Muslim is just so it's not confusing with the children and how they are raised. Generally people want to be married to someone who shares the same faith, it's just easier. It's different with Muslim women, they have to marry a Muslim man, so the children will be Muslim, as the children are generally raised in the religion of the father (no matter what the religion is). That is the only reason for marrying within your faith, for the children. His Mother has no control over what is in the Quran, she can't force her children to marry anyone, that is against the religion. Nor does her son "have to marry a Muslim"... She is deluded. She doesn't want her son to be swayed away from the religion, if he is strong in his religion, then she shouldn't worry.
There's nothing that says he has to marry his cousin. But yes, technically he has to marry within his faith. BUT At the end of the day it is his choice. He can chose to reject his mothers beliefs and do what he wants. Seriously, if he is hiding behind 'mommy said so', you may want to rethink marrying this guy. And you cant do anything about it. He has to grow up and do what he wants to do. If he doesnt, find someone else.
He doesn't exactly have to listen to his mom. As for marrying his cousin.. Ewww... I wouldn't worry about marriage at your age anyways. If it did get to where you want to get married then his mom can just deal with not controlling her sons love life because that doesn't fly to well over here and when he is at marrying age she has no control over him period.
You are 13...why is this such a major problem. By the time either of you gets married, you have had many boyfriends.
k im not 13 im 17 ..I just cant change the bday in the acount it doesnt allow me 2
