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My moher is an unusual dater. She has dated many older and younger men than her. Recently she meet this muslim man and he is nice and all but the fact is he's muslim and I wouldn't want my mother to be one. Should I step in and tell her he might brainwash her or should I just ignore them and let her turn into one?
Dude let your mother be!! if she was pre judiced about muslim men then she wouldhave not dated him in the first place...if there is a disagreement about religion then the two will work it out...see wether it is essential to be converted or not if they want to get marrried and if ure mother objects be being converted then she will definitely end the relation hsip and Muslim men do not posses the means to brainwash women...a christian can do that as well or ahidu so the possibilities is endless iof she deiced to be a muslim and get married then so be it...its her choice not yours..ure relationship remains the same..don't know what the problem is here...is it just ure own personal inhibitions or somethin else if so move on mate...let people live in happiness or if not then do not be worried if they really are committed then they would decide mutually,I 'hd say stop worryng mate...not all muslims are brainwashers or what other sterotypes are attached to muslim men...if they are committed all decisos would be mutual thats what I say
Hello, I'm a Muslim Man, not the Muslim Man who your mother is dating heh, sorry I'm married.
But I can assure you that your reservations about this, however natural they may feel, are mostly the by-product of racial prejudice in light of recent events.
Get a feel for who this person is before you judge them by their faith in Religion.
Islam & Christianity are very alike and it would do you good to learn a little about our great monotheistic religion when you can by visiting a community center and talking to the spiritual leaders/people first hand.
You will feel more comfortable knowing that we are humans like yourself and we come in all types good or bad.
Ultimately, she's your mother and if you feel she is happy, do not stand in her way of achieving it. (I would do the same).
Peace be upon you. MZK
I think it's really unlikely he would brainwash her. But I have had Muslim friends in Britain, and also some non-Muslim ones who dated Muslim men, and there could be a few cultural problems, depending on how serious he is about his faith and traditions.
Probably, he's not that serious as he's dating a non-Muslim with kid(s)! But there might be a few differences between them - a Muslim man might expect your mum to be more respectful, or quiet, or stay-at-home, than she would think is normal. If that causes problems between them, maybe the relationship won't last.
If she ever did decide to become a Muslim it would either be for love or because she truly believed it is the right faith. I personally think that's not very likely, but if she does, her family will need to respect her decision.
Don't see the man as a Muslim, but see the man himself. Where does he differ from you and your mum and do you have a problem with his beliefs and customs. Get to know him and his religion you'll find out stuff you didn't know before! There's nothing really wrong with being a Muslim. (Unless you really like pork chops and beer!! lol) Your mum won't change all that much if she does convert. If you're Christian or Jewish she doesn't really have to convert to marry. But in the end it's her choice weather she likes the religion or not. Islam is a beautiful religion and there is nothing wrong with it. If he's a nice guy he won't brainwash your mum dw! Remember don't think that a muslim is whatever you hear on the news! Hope it works out!
I think you need to talk to your mom and tell her how you feel. your mom needs to know how you feel. but you cant judge the man by his religion. why dont you ask him about islam, maybe you can respect Islam and Muslims more, that way, you wont have a problem with his religion. im sure he wont brainwash you if he truly loves your mom. and im also sure your mom wont convert unless she feels like its the right thing to do. I wish you all the best, yes?
I think you should talk to your mother in private and express your reservations at her dating this Muslim man.Do make it clear exactly what you have a problem with (your fear of him brainwashing her, or converting her into a Muslim).Do figure out whether you have any problems with him as a person, for this too might play a part in your, let's say distaste for him.
It depends on your stand point of muslims. The truth is the only ones you have to worry about, same as christans, are extremists. So if he trys to blow somthing up be scared. lol. But in genral Muslims arent that bad.
Do you have any GOOD reasons to think a muslim man would brainwash your mother? Is your views on Islam that misinformed, or is your mother that weak-minded to begin with?
leave your mother to herself...it odesnt matter if someone or is muslim or christian as if the man is nice...
Too bad you don't get to decide who your mother can or cannot date - or what she can or cannot believe.
You can tell your mother how you feel, but it's your mothers decision to make!
