i was recently watching my bf's niece who is turning 3 here soon. now i have been babysitting since i was 13 and have watched plenty of 3 year old. she is not like any of them. she has alot of minor freak out mode, almost panic attacks. i wanted to take her to the park and she was fine until we hit the end of the street then paniced and ran all the way home. she told me "i not aloud to go anywhere" and "i stay here forever". She ran away from me when i tried tying her shoe, she was afraid to take a bath because she thought the shower would turn on, she's not yet potty trained but cries and begs you not to change her. She repeats the phrases i ok and i fine over and over again when she gets nervous. i'm really concerned for her, because she never was like this before and now she's like a different little girl.
Anxiety issues in a child can develop at a very early age ... the question here is whether she is simply acting according to what her parents are teaching her (I'm not insinuating that she's being abused at home, but that's one reason why children that young show anxiety), or if she does have a disorder of some kind. My oldest daughter has Asperger's, but the real symptoms didn't show up until she started school and was forced to "socialize" with other children.
Either way, it's normal for a three year old to be afraid of specific things, when taught by their parents to beware, but the fear of having her diaper changed (and, at 3 years old, potty training should be well in effect), or the repeated phrases "I ok", and "fine", tend to raise suspicions that not everything is kosher.
I don't know what kind of relationship you have with her parents, but it may not be a bad idea to write down some of things she is doing that concern you, and suggest they take her to a doctor.
'Anxiety issues' tends to imply that they are innate and within the person. (That's just how the DSM views mental disorders). It is possible to diagnose a child at that age. But I wouldn't. At that age, if the child is displaying those symptoms, I'd guess that the caregivers were somehow influencing them. That with a mixture of the child's innate tendencies. But still. A child that age displaying signs like that without the influence of the caregivers would be extremely unusual.
See i don't want his sister to think i'm offending her by suggesting it
But maybe my bf and i can sit her down and see what we noticed. She has to know some of the things the little girl panics about is not normal. i just feel so helpless cuz she's not my child,
thank you that is a great idea, i know she is well taken care and stuff. i don't know what exactly goes on when i'm not around. My bf another sister with Asperger's so it is quite possible she could have it. is it hereditary?
i didn't even think about that it before hand my bf and i will have to sit down and talk to his sister about it. thanks again =)
Yes - it can be inherited, so there's your ace-in-the-hole. Suggesting she may have it is a fair assumption.
Honestly if u want real answers I wud consult her doc but it does snd like anxiety