why is it painful to lose your virginity?

am a girl and am very proud of virgin status but I believe god was un fair when he made men and women because women do it all the labour the period the lost of virginity what do men do except just sit around gosh I need some answers

Girls have what is called a hymen- this is a thin layer of skin inside the vagina that protects it. When the penis enters the vagina is breaks this skin- which can be rather painful. Some girls do not have a hymen, or the hymen can be broken earlier in their life by non-sexual extreme activities. Examples would be horseback riding, gymnastics, and so on.

Boys don’t have anything that would necessarily hurt them. Nothing in your penis BURSTS. You may feel minor discomfort if the girl isn’t completely wet at the time of penetration- but that’s all I can think of as far as pain goes for boys. As long as both of you are ready for it, you should be fine- just keep in mind that most important part is that you’re mentally ready for sex. If you have any doubts, just wait- the right girl and the right time will come along.

Guys don’t feel any pain when loosing their virginity.

but coulpe of my guy frens say when you have sex you kinda feel a little pain because something in your penis burst I don’t know,,have it ever happened to you before

I guess you know that the pain you’re asking about is more psychological than physical… and that the physical one doesn’t concern you much…

Society has this insulting double standard on forcing every girl to consider her virginity as a sort of badge, a kind of status symbol to uphold and at the same time forcing them to give it up for the sake of all men. Even men are brainwashed to uphold it, for their so-called benefit…

This leads men to think that virgins are valuable while those who have given it up are worthless. It’s unfair to think in these terms - it means to say that those whom we brand as nymphos and sluts aren’t worth to be considered human at all…

Nowadays, the so-called moral concept of virginity is being used as an excuse by a lot of sleazy guys for easy sex… For one, giving it up is an argument they use on hapless girls to prove their love; another use of it on non-virgins being an excuse that since she lost it there’s no reason for her to hold back on sex with any guy. With how this (quote, unqoute) moral value is being used, do girls have to bother with it sitll?

I’m not hinting that girls the world over are free to have unconditional sex with any guy without considering the consequences. What I mean is when such values are being used to manipulate women, what it protects doesn’t matter anymore.

I’m leading you to the real reasons why girls are hesitant about having sex that easily and how to get over such concerns: Getting knocked up? Use protection - the science of contraception has become so advanced that if any mistake should happen, it’s often the user’s fault (today’s condoms are so durable & reliable while providing pleasure at the same time - if only the person using it considered the expiry date and never placed it in his wallet. That’s why they came with writings on their package that says “directions for use”) Being branded by fellow girls as a tramp? In truth, they are secretly envious - they know such girls who give it up are confident of their reasons in doing so. Besides if a (quote, unqoute) tramp is really ugly in their eyes, she really isn’t worth to talk about or even diss. Learn to take it with a grain of salt - there a million enlightened girls out there who are truly worth being your friends.

Bad treatment from guys? Learn to weed out the sleazebags from the good ones. As for the good ones, I mean the guys who complement who you are. One example is a guy looking for a girl who’s mother figure and there’s this a girl who loves to mother her lover then pair up - one not leaving the other because they complement, like jigaw puzzles pieces with interlocking parts. Many hearts were broken because a lot of them make the mistake of picking out a lover just for her/his looks and personality and also in thinking what to get out of someone but never thinking on what, and how, to give back. Find the man who can fill your needs and to whom you can meet his needs. And what if those good ones left you after giving your all? Doubtful if that would happen - yeah, he may fool around but the right choice will realize how much he has missed out and come right back into your arms. In the beginning stages of your relationship with him, virginity should never be a hindrance - the more you give to the right guy, the more you receive… so it’s important to believe the concept of virginity never existed - just plain forget it. It’s really a social manipulative device.

And finally the main hesitation - whatever happened to sex being special and sacred? Having sex with the right man still makes it sacred - and special. And it’s all that matters - whether you’re married or not. Guys are also aware how tasteless sex without affection is - very much like shagging a slut: good but empty. Any breakups after that sacred sex shouldn’t worry you - like I said, having chosen the right man and doing the right moves with him shouldn’t make you worry if he leaves - they always come right back…

The kind of psychological pain we guys feel in regards to it is when the girls start to use virginity as a manipulative device - nothing makes us more angry than a girl who uses her py as to bait us in an unrewarding relationship, giving the impression that we are brutes with d for brains. Guys like sex but it isn’t always on their minds …