Why do girls do so much to change who they really are?

they probably wanna be hotter than the other girls. dont be fake like them.

it’s the media and what the media enforces on them!! it’s what society tells them what beauty is and that to be “beautiful” and fit the “category” of a “normal girl” - you need this and that and so on. but it’s true… you really don’t!! like really… “why fit in, if you’re born to stand out” and “beauty these days is skin deep” :) girls NEED to know that!!

I don’t know. It’s men. Its seeing pictures of fake wh0res on the internet and seeing how much they are adored and loved by the men. I don’t know why, but they definitely like fake girls more. I hate fake anything. I won’t even wear makeup. I’m not popular, and no one calls me pretty. But I don’t want to attract those types of guys anyway. I have a wonderful loving boyfriend whos extremely mature and loves me for who I am, and thats all I want anyway :) Dont ever change who you are. If someone doesn’t like you for you, they aren’t wrth your time.

Its not just the media…

Girls strive for attention from other people and will do anything to get it. Even if it means changing themselves entirely for it. This is whats called trying to fit in with other people and its not healthy. I know it sounds bad but some girls are really like that, they easily fall for peer pressure and will do anything it takes to have friends.

Then you have girls that want boyfriends and want to be loved. These girls are at greater risks, they will do anything to draw the attention of guys and I’m pretty sure you all know how they do that. It sucks a lot they really sold themselves for the pleasure of men.

Then the media kicks in, the media gives girls the idea that they are not perfect and they need to be large chested, skinny as hell, blah… Its a fixed view and there is no such thing as a normal girl that every girl on the world should follow. This portrayal of the perfect girl that makes all other girls think they’re ugly, fat, dorky etc. Its not like that and I damn wish girls could get that into their heads for once.

Then there are girls that do change themselves for a reason. Think about prostitutes, these girls sell themselves for the sake of bringing money home and having something for their family to live of. Not all prostitutes are like that but some are and these girls just sadden you to the deepest core. It happens with frequency and it pains me to say that…

Hope this helps.

Okayy, so does that mean getting your hair trimmed automatically makes you a ‘fake’? I don’t understand how clipping your nails can change your whole character, either.

No one said anything about a hair trim or a toenail clipping, stupid. We’re talking about fake wh0res who cake on makeup and dye their hair some fugly shade of blonde to get attention.

I wear makeup to go with my egdy look, but im not fake. I like to paint my nails weriod colours and I want to get pink streaks, but not to be a slut and get a certain amount of compents and looks from guys, I use it to make a statement. It could also be called creativity

It’s a long and complicated history of gender roles and the image of women. Women are taught by society that their role in life is to be a friend, mother, sister, daughter etc. They are literally defined by their relationships with others. One of the most important relationships and goals in life is being with a significant other (I.e. boyfriend, husband etc). This is the way they find love, affection, financial and emotional support (after all they are supposed to be dependent on this person). The way to find a partner, is to be sexually appealing. The way to be sexually appealing is through appearance. Which is why you end up with women who try not to be who they are, but who they think will attract a man. And, this is where the media steps in. Have you watched ads? There’s a weight loss ad at least every 10 minutes. There’s ads for makeup, hair products, laser hair removal, sun tan stuff, clothes, jewelry, etc etc etc. Everything that makes a woman more beautiful. Which makes her more appealing as a potential mate. Which is, after all, what women are supposed to be striving for. Think about words. B*tch. What does that mean? A woman who is assertive and basically stands up for herself? Because heaven forbid a woman be assertive. Slut. Society sexualizes women, but oh no, you’re only allowed to be so sexual. After that point you’re a slut. And you’re no longer a desirable mate. You’re just good for sex. We dont have the same words for men, because those are good things if you’re a man. Bottom line is, women are not allowed to be themselves, because themselves isnt good enough to meet the right guy. And we all buy into that.