Who can help with my life problems? (heh...) ?

‘’She doesn’t get a divorce because of me… She also asks him to do things (which he doesn’t do) even if it’s as simple as having dishes done by the time she gets back from work..’’

That sounds just like my mother. She’s trapped in a bad situation, and she isn’t ever going to get herself out of it. That isn’t your responsibility. I moved out of my house because my stepfather was a prick and my mom willingly stayed with him time and time again. All you can really do is save yourself. It sucks really it does. I HATED leaving my mom, and to this day I still feel partially guilty for it. In the end though, it’s not your problem.

I don’t know if you’re old enough to leave, but the threat of that alone might wake both of your parents up. If you’re dad doesn’t care then when he is all on his own, then he’s not someone that you will benefit from learning under. In time, he’ll either come to his senses or screw himself over. Either way, it’s out of your control. My honest and best advice is to separate yourself from the situation as much as possible. Leave it up to them.

Good luck.

Its his house but who is doing all the paying here? Your mother. I’m pretty much saying that your parents can sell the house and split the money. That’s what typically happens with these types of scenarios.

if its because of fear of not having custody over you. Hes irresponsible and I highly doubt any judge will leave you in the care of such a man. I honestly don’t know what else to say but sorry that you and your mother have to suffer for this man’s irresponsibility.

We’ve actually stopped for a long while with “pestering” him.. nothing has changed. And I know it may sound harsh, but if you go back and really consider everything in my question, this is getting ridiculous. It has been FIVE years, we have a ton of people calling CONSTANTLY, soo much, that he constantly has a phone by him and he checks the caller ID and literally hangs up in about 2 seconds. I’m only 16 years old by the way, It’s not like I can really do anything but ask, and when I ever do, it’s not like Why don’t you get a damn job!! It’s more like casually asking,.. hey dad? (what?) have you been looking at any jobs lately? Like I’ve said, we’ve tried just about everything. And (for the other answer) we just can’t get rid of him. It’s his house. My mom has a job AND tries to take care of the house. He doesn’t do anything to help at all, I know that sounds unrealistic, but it’s true..

Move away from him and let him sulk in his own misery. He shouldn’t be bringing you and your mother down with him. That’s not right, If your parents are married then your mother should get divorced from him. He is very irresponsible and you shouldn’t be living with a man of that nature. He doesn’t seem to be making the situation any better then it already is so it doesn’t make sense to be having a 5th wheel on a car does it?

On the other hand if you really care about him then that’s going to be rather difficult. You can choose to stay with him and try anything to help him out (which you pointed out already) or simply just have him there and let him be as useless as he wants to be. I think though; that your mother should exert some order around the house. She is basically the one in charge now and she should be demanding him to make use of himself. Other than that I really don’t know what you can do.

We don’t cause I refused to not go to the school I’m going to, when college comes, that’s different but that’s still a few years away.. I used to see a therapist for a little and she was gonna help us with family stuff but of course.. (“I’m not going to that talk shit”)

 But anyways, thanks everyone I appreciate it :)  -John

She doesn’t get a divorce because of me… She also asks him to do things (which he doesn’t do) even if it’s as simple as having dishes done by the time she gets back from work..

The guy is obviously depressed and you guys pestering him about it is just going to make it worse. I don’t think he will do anything at all as long as you and your mom keep nagging him about it. You guys need to change strategy, and I don’t really know how, but the constant telling him and reminding him is just going to make it worse.

Anytime and I really hope eveythin works out for you

Get rid of him.. ? Sounds harsh, but if he doesn’t wants to help.. he has to go. :/