Home More advice Parents & Family
Hey and I'm back and need some help again sadly... First off past few months I've been realising that my life isn't going anywhere really. I have been in home school for a good amount of time now and ever what made me go into home school was my addiction to video games. I hear it everyday what am I going to do with my life so far its going in the Sh***er sorta and its hitting me really hard now since I'm almost 18 in like 3 months. I have never had a job and school is just another pressure on me not going anywhere with my life. So I'm here tonight asking for some help for getting my life on track none the less almost being 18 and having to still share a room with my sister yes I know sad don't tell me its in my head 24/7 having that problem isn't helping me grow up either. So I feel like I need to move out to get some space I've always been the baby from my parents they want me to be the goody goody boy and never want to move out or leave and grow up. I need to but I typing this tonight I do not want any one posting on how worst my life can be because I know its not that bad but to me it is just try having to share a room with your sister that has a baby and shes older then me thats a relationship crusher no girl would want to date a guy that shares a room with their sister there is really no privacy. I have had some bad relationships and its just getting harder and harder it seems to me but I'm here asking for answers on ways to give me some space from my parents and family. I mean for goodness sakes I feel like I am being crushed and also asking for help on how to get my life back on track and how to get a smooth relationship started and take it slow and not rush into a strong relationship. Please don't reply if your not going to help I have had enough with some those reply's sorry to say it but its sorta true and don't flame me for it. I also don't really know what category this should be under so don't flame me for that either.
Thanks for all the help I will take all the help I can get I know that 18 is still young but 18 is the age most people spread their wings and I just can't seem to do that. Its sorta hard to find a job when the places around where I live don't hire very much and when they do its not for long at all probably 1 day in a half they hire on the spot. The places that are hiring are a nice good ways away from where I live and can't get a job there if I don't have car and only person that could drive me there is my mom but me asking for anything really from her is a strong no most of the time and asking my dad is out of the question seeing how we don't speak and all and he doesn't drive anyone anywhere. Plus we fight quiet a bit we don't get along very well. Both my sisters drive but both them have baby's and they do not like to drive places that are no use to them what so ever and the gas prices don't help either. My brother doesn't do jack for me if I really think about it he doesn't do jack for anyone but him self well not really pretty lazy person if you ask me but I could always ask a friend for a ride to work or ride to find a job only thing is I don't have many friends only 2 and both them are few years younger then me. so I'm sorta stuck in the mud.
I would suggest if you still play video games to just get rid of them to keep out the temptation. Dress really nice for your interview at whatever job you want to get. Be extremely courteous and polite and don't be nervous. The best thing would be to get it somewhere charitable like at a hospital or nursing home. Don't be picky because you have no experience, tell them that you are willing to take any job they have available. Send a thankyou note a few days after the interview (Thank them for spending the time to consider you). Turn your cell phone off for the interview. In order to not rush into a relationship, just don't get too excited when everything is going well. Take things slow and discuss everything with her before you do it so that you don't make any spur of the moment mistakes especially ones that she may regret. Make more room to talk than to fool around. Make it a point, even when you don't want to, to talk for at least a half an hour before you get into anything. Getting your life back together is difficult but it isn't impossible. If you have any questions, funmail. Good luck
in my opinion, have you considered joining the military? I was in the Marines, but I'd recommend the Air Force because it has many more opportunities. The military would not only help you in gaining your identity as you are maturing but would also be able to offer you educational benefits and many good life experiences.
The military also gives you a chance to see more of the world and the cultures that make it up.
It gives you a chance to get out on your own and be more responsible for yourself while still having a frame work that affords you a little protection from being on your own and alone at 18.
im sorry your having such a rough time right now. I cant really give any advice on how to get your life back on track- and I know that's what you asked for. but all I can tell you.. is that today is not the rest of your life. it will get better, even if it take a little bit.. I know that's frustrating.. but that's just how life goes. God doesnt put anything on you that your not capable of handling. so keep on, keeping on. good luck! :)
Go out and look anywhere to get a decent job. You'll meet a lot of new people and should be able to save up some money until you can eventually afford your own place. 18 is still very young, so don't be afraid of the real world. I promise you, the pay off for being independent will be worth it. To be able to look around and say "hey, I actually did this on my own!" is a pretty awesome feeling.
Joining the Military or the Air Force could be my only option its a thinker for sure thanks for the advice.
