What do I do my 6 yr old pinches her 6 mo sis till she bleeds?

I left the room and heard my baby screaming and found my 6 yr old pinching her and there was blood.I cant leave the 6mo alone. I have caught my 6yr old moving her sister on the floor so when she falls over she will hit a table or other obstacle. I’ve explained this will hurt the baby,I’ve done time out. I now think about the adults you hear about that tortured animals when they were small. Am I over reacting or is this serious signs of mental help needed?

Answer #1

I think it might just be jealousy.. and explain to her that is wrong to do that and that you love both of them equally. if that doesnt work a good spanking will>> im not saying to beat her(for its illegal and wrong).. im saying just hit her lightly to get the point accross that you are not ging to tolerate her doing those things anymore. I dont really believe in violence but I know that sometimes you wont get a kid to listen unless they respect you and understand when you say not to do it >they should stop.

Answer #2

Its jealously…pure and simple.

Dont freak out.

Make sure you are showing her as much attention, if not more, than the baby.

She is used to being the center of attention and now that she isnt anymore, she is pissed!

It isnt a sign of any mental disorders or anything else. Its sibling rivalry. My son and his cousin go through this. They are so close and basically the only kids in the family. My son was 6 when my nephew was born I have helped raise him so much that my nephew will call me things like Mama. He is now 4 and knows this makes my son made so thats why he does it. LOL!

But they fuss like an old married couple. Its funny.

But yeah…thats all it is. It will take time and patience to get through it but everyone who has had more than one kid has been through this. ITS NORMAL! Dont treat it with anger and punishment. Give her some time. Make sure she has one on one time just with you. Let her help take care of the baby. Talk up how special it is that she is a big sister now and can help take care of the baby and how the baby will look up to her and trust her. Get her her own doll to take care of while you take care of the baby.

When she does do something then explain why she cant do it and that she wouldnt like someone to do that to her. Ask her what she would think if it was someone else trying to hurt the baby.

Buy some books on sibling rivalry. Do an internet search.

Wishicouldstopit is 15. I am going to guess they dont know much about raising children and I hope their post didnt scare you.

Answer #3

Actually…spanking is not illegal. However, telling a child not to hurt someone and then spanking them for doing so sends a mixed message…don’t you think? Spanking is NOT a way to get respect. Its a way to get your child to be scared of you.

Answer #4

If you’re going with the whole sociopath thing I think you’re overreacting just a little. She’s just jealous of the baby. Dont leave her alone with the baby…

Answer #5

I agree with solartist. I have three kids myself. oldest was 4 when second one was born. sibling rivalry can be vicious. My oldest tried many things, but explaining and allowing her to help out by getting diapers and wipes, playing peek-a-boo, and such are all great ways to get the older child involved. the more involved the less she will want to hurt her. patience and persistence are your best defense. remember to remind her that you still love her, and be sure to get a sitter and spend time giving her your undivided attention. GOOD LUCK

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