alright. there's this guy who I've been REALLY close- like best- friends with for 4-5 years now. and I've always had a little thing for him, and we've always been really flirty. but now, I like him more than just a friend, and he wants to be f**k buddies. I mean I've seen his penis and we've like goofed around and all, like had phone-sex (nothing else), but when I was like 'hey, guess what I like you.' (I wasn't that forward about it, but you all get the point) he kinda was like freaked out by it. and honestly, it surprised me, because of the way he acted around me. I mean, he's a virgin and he's never been like this with anyone else, and I'm just really confused. I mean can someone give some kinda advice or something??? I mean, I'm not a slut... and he's not the first guy to ask me to do something like this... he's 1 outta 4. and we're both 15 btw, in case that helps.
Friends dont ask friends to be f*ck buddies!! Friends with benefits only work between people who do NOT have emotional feelings towards one another! If one person likes the other person more than in a friend way, being friends with benefits will only leave that person feeling lonely, and used! I dont understand why any girl would wanna do sexual things with a boy if they arent commited to you.(as in being in a relationship) They are only using you! They dont like you or even care about you. Thats why so many girls get hurt whenever a boy dumps them or doesnt talk to them anymore, because she really thought he liked her. Most young boys are looking for sex. They will look for any girl who is willing, and able. You need to start having respect for yourself hun, or all the boys will only want you for is one thing, and its not to bring them home to meet their parents! Tell this boy, if he wants to get sexual with you, then you should be good enough to be his gf!!
everyone, thak's sooo much for the advice, and i decided that you're all right and i'm not going to do it. i'm going to talk to him about it and all though, because i do still want to be friends with him, because before all this we were really close and had a lot of fun together and i want to see if this can still be a regular friendship.
I think that fifteen is way to young to be having sex. I don't want to sound like your mother or anything but I have a lot of friends who wished they could take their first time back and others who don't. If you honestly think you're ready thats fine. But your first time shouldn't be through friends with benefits. And I'm only seventeen by the way.
Confront him about this. Just really say you like him, tell him how you feel. tell him what you feel in your heart, it's all about that. I hope this short answer helps, if you need anymore advice funmail me : )
NO CAUSE 90% OF THE TIME , YOU END UP GETTING HURT ..ALSO THEIR USING "FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS" AS ANOTHER TERM MEANING SLEEPING AROUND.. THATS WHAT I GATHER.