Heya, I'm new to this site...Anyway, I've recently given up on the whole relationship thing. Yes, I know I'm only 18, but give me a break...There are a few guys that I have shown interest in only in a sexual way, and vice versa. Well I a few nights ago I exercised my right as a single young woman and had sex with a friend of mine. He's a couple years younger, (16) and I really don't approve of anyone under 16 having sex, but geeze...I dunno. I just wonder what all this looks like to someone on the outside. I don't consider myself to be slutty, I admit that I am quite free sexually but I am picky about the men (and women...) that I sleep with. Any thoughts? What do you think about this kind of situation?
Friends with benefits rarely work and here's why: Humans produce a hormone during sex. The hormone bonds the pair, it's a chemical reaction in the body making us feel closer to the person. So soon enough one of the pair will start to feel more than just friends. Usually the female has more of this hormone hence she ends up being very emotional about this person. The male also has this hormone but it isn't as strong so men...being men can go a long period of time before they become emotionally attached to their friend with benefits. So this may work for the short run but soon someone will be hurt. Most likely the woman. I highly recommend AGAINST this practice not only for the reason stated but yes, it does give one a bad name and when that Mr. Right does come along it will surely complicate things needlessly.
The f-buddy seems like an ingenius idea at first. But eventually, ONE of you will become attached, and will want to further the relationship; or ONE of you will find someone you actually want a real relationship with. That in turn, will put a strain on the friendship between you and your f-buddy.
I think that you should do what makes you happy. Friends with benifits is alright, but not for your whole life. You should look for someone who would treat you the way you deserve to be treated, but in the mean time, just have fun! [:
Thanks everyone for your feedback! My mind is reeling with thoughts and you guys helped. :) Thanks again!