Finally the papers came though and he now knows. Well he says when he has her he dont ask for money. He has her on the weekends sometimes more. But he doesnt work. No job. Lives with his mom. He says i shouldnt be filing because he has her a lot. But i still have to pay for daycare, even when she is not going. I am the main parent. He says he will just go to jail :/
well the amount of days he spends with the child is accounted for when they create the amount that he owes, so his argument that since he sees the child a lot he doesn't have to pay is b.s since he is paying for the other days (since if the parents lived together they would be paying every day, he is paying for the days he does not have her).
And if you didn't have a job, those expenses are still there so you would still have to pay so the same should go for him. The child needs what the child needs regardless of if he has a job or not so do not feel guilty for making him pay. It takes two to make a child.
you can try telling him that you are sure he is a better man than the type of man who would go to prison just to avoid supporting his child, and remind him of what his child will one day hear about him. Ask him if he is willing to tell your child that "daddy went to prison because he didn't want to pay for you so mommy had to do it alone" when the child is old enough. Tell him to man up and be the father you know he can be because you would like to have nothing but nice things to say about him when your child asks.
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It's going to take more then a spell for him to get what child support is about. Since apparently he is a grown child still being supported by his mother and still doesn't get his end of financial responsiblity to his own child. Do what you have to do. Try and explain a child in these economic times does need the help of both parents. It would be far better if you could reach some sort of arrangement. But if not it will have to be up to the courts as the situation isn't about you or him it's her financial care. If he's willing to go to jail rather then paying...I'll betcha anything his wish will be granted. And no, jail is not as boring and secure as mommas house.... by any means. As Onemandog posted, try and reason with him but if you can't, you can't. It's not about him it's about your daughter.
Well, of course you want to be as nice as possible, but don't let him make you feel guilty. He is as much financially responsible as you. Things can be worked out to what expenses are and the support can be based on that. Splitting the cost of daycare for just one example. My mom raised us by herself and never recieved one penny of support and life was really hard. Back then, the law wasn't strict about it, but now it is and for good reason. I have a friend who is a single father and the mom pays so things are starting to equal out. Press forward my friend, but be fair. He needs to be a man and get a job anyway, if for no other reason than to support his daughter. You could be helping him out in the long run.
Cause he is lazy and does not want to pay, he thinks he can just have kids and not support or get away with it and think its all cool and does not have to do nothing and can leave any time...
Well i think its plain wrong :P
If he is gonna be immature i think you should make a list of the expenses and show it to him....
If he ever goes to jail tell him to say Hi! for Big Bubba for me lol...
Right. Try not to feel bad unless you really stick it to him, then that's mean. The thing is, you are both responsible for her but if you are the only one taking responsibility and paying for everything then he needs to do his part even if he's made to.
time for him to grow up...even though its harsh..i still feel bad but i no later he will understand...maybe
you have a wrong impression of jail dude it's just really boring place
Right on pistol annie for not even considering that crap.
come one annies whats a little witch craft ahahahy
He even gets his mom involved. Just talked to her.
Well u no me ;)
Ah no thanks