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How do I deal with my dad being upset about his birthday?

Tomorrow is my dad’s birthday and he’s going through a rough patch financially so he’s always down about everything lately. Today he told my mom and I that if we wish him a Happy Birthday tomorrow he wont ever do a thing for us again because he doesn’t want to be reminded his birthday, same goes if we give him a gift.

I don’t know why we have to be punished because of him being unhappy, I’d feel bad not wishing him a Happy Birthday or giving him a gift but at the same time I don’t want to upset him.

What do I do? Just treat it like any other day or go against his wishes?

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Answer #1

Just give him a big hug, tell him you love him and say how grateful you are that he is your dad and for all he has given you in your life, from the gift of life itself to presents to food to a wonderful relationship with him.

Answer #2

Don’t say anything about his birthday, but go out of your way to do nice favors for him. Even if it looks like he’s not appreciating them, just keep smiling. When the day is over, you can bring up the subject and try to to talk to him how it’s hurting you to see him down. But wait until the day is over! He’s probably not going to be in the best of moods tomorrow and saying anything negative may upset him. Good luck! Remember you should NOT have to be your parents’ parent!

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