When is a good age to start having kids?

I’m only 15 and just got engaged but I was wondering whats a good age to have kids. I want kids so bad but I know I’m not ready. But my fiance who is 20 is going to be wanting kids. But when I graduate high school I’m going to have to go through 8 years of college. And than I might be going into the Marines, or become a Coast Guard Rescue Swimmer. I’m going to become a doctor first and than I want to help support my country. And by the time I get out I’m going to be about 30. I want to have kids before that.

So what time should I start having kids? I only want to have 2.

Answer #1

I m not one to judge you cant help who you love just slow down and finish your schooling first because once you have kids chances are you are not going to want to go to college. Time can tell . At least wait untill you graduated college

Answer #2

I’m 19 and my girlfriend is pregnant (she’s 20). - And I can honestly tell you, I’m pretty scared about the whole thing. Lucky that my mom has said she’ll help anyway she can, and also lucky is that my girlfriend will be on my insurance through the whole thing.

But having to put college on hold (or take night classes, like I am now) and start making some real money or we’ll be a world of problems.

Hopefully going to sign with the Coast Guard because families can follow and the benefits are simply great.

  • I guess to answer the question… I would say around 25 to 30 years old, would have been much better for me anyways. - At least then I would have a better job, hopefully finished with school/degree and more knowledgeable about the world.

  • And I know many people have said, 15 and 20 year olds dating is illegal. Personally, all the guys I know still dating young high schoolers simply can’t get girls their own age and know young high school girls are vulnerable and looking to fit in. - If I were you, I wouldn’t do anything that would put me in a spot to be stuck with someone for the rest of your life at so young, you might think you love him, but things can change. Besides, life is full of surprises you might go to college and want to go your own way in life and he might slow you down.

  • Or hell, you two might get married and live happily ever after. Just know that if you try to get pregnant and you do, it’s no longer about you two having fun and going on dates. It’s about making a stable life style for your child, best thing you could do is at the very least wait until your out of high school and get a taste of what the real world is like.

~ good luck

Answer #3

First, you know you are very young. You probably hate hearing this but you are still a child yourself. I’m 25 (just turned) my husband is turning 30 next month and we still do not have children. We’ve been married for 2 years. Something a lot of people do is have children just because they want to. They don’t look at their current situation and they just act on emotions. I want a child more than anything, but I know at this moment we are not ready. I still have 5 years left before I become a doctor, my husband is still training to be a firefighter. I need to dedicate at least 8 hours a day to school, so my baby would have to be in daycare. I just think you should enjoy being engaged, enjoy being 15, enjoy getting married. I can’t give you an exact age of when you should have a baby but I think you should reflect on your current situation and really think about what is best for the baby.

Answer #4

I find it interesting that you think you have your life all figured out at 15. When I was 15 I wanted to be a pilot. Later I learned that even though I didn’t wear glasses that I didn’t have good enought eyesight to be a military pilot. I went to college to become a jazz musician but even though I had a great time persuing my dream it didn’t pan out and eventually I had to exchange my job with my hobby and go into computers. I rode the Internet wave in the 90’s and had a heck of a great time doing that.

I didn’t have my daughter until I was 41 and that was a good age for me. I don’t know what will be the right age for you but I have to point out that our lives often unfold in suprising and mysterious ways. Just go with it for a while and when the time is right for you to be be fruitful and multiply you will know it.

Answer #5

im also 15 and I just had a baby girl me and my girlfriend are so proud to have her its not bad to have a kid at 15 years old it was the best thing that ever happend to us and I will never reget having thing kid

Answer #6

Dear xxyouramazzing, Todays women are fortunate to be able to have a career and stable lifestyle before having children. Some think that having children will bring their relationship with their partner closer or they will hold their partner if they fear loosing them. So you have to dig deep as to why you want children so young. You will be gone to college and begin a career…this would not be fair or maybe not even impossible if you have children. Todays women need to set a good example for their children by showing them how important a good career is for self-esteem and self-worth. Continue with your plans for a great future and hold off having children until you have a career in Marine rescue…what a wonderful gift you will give your children. Sue…good luck

Answer #7

I know it is illegal to be dating someone older than 18 when you are younger but I really dont see why if you are engaged age is just a number right? I don’t know thats what I have always thought about

Answer #8

twenty one. you body devoloped and yo stable

Answer #9

15 years old is too young to be engaged! And him being 20 and you being 15 is ILLEGAL!

Answer #10

a good age to have kids is when you are in a stable lifestyle.

ie career, relationship, own home

Answer #11

babysitting would be great if u love kids. you could help at a day care place or babysit for neighbors.

Answer #12

Your parents are going to let their teenaged daughter marry an adult man? They’re intelligent.

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