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how can I tell my dad that I'm not Christain anymore??
If you were once a "Christian" and are now not, I doubt you ever truly understood what it meant.
But that being said, I greatly encourage, you to tell your dad, that you don't believe you are a Christian. Tell him you need to talk, and tell him that you aren't, and explain why. And even if you don't believe in God, or Christ, try praying to God (couldn't hurt right), and asking, that he help you explain to your dad why you aren't a Christian, and ask that your dad listen. For many parents I'm sure it is very hard to hear especially if they feel very strongly in their convictions, but I bet he would rather have you be honest with him and say you aren't a Christian, then have you pretend to be, but have to hide the truth from him.
A large proportion of the youth are turning from Christianity because of their associations with the political religious right. I am a Christian, but I abhor most of the Republican base, and so many of their hypocritical actions and views. If it is because of the relationship between Christians and the religious right's political leanings, please don't let that make you give up on it.
Wish you well man.
Having experienced both sides of the fence in this matter, wait till you're closer to an adult age to inform your parents of your beliefs. If not, they'll amp everything up, trying to expose you to as much of it as possible before you're too old to be outside of their influence. If you're 17 and nearing 18, you MIGHT get a better reaction. After a few months of extreme tension, me and my father came to an understanding(ironically, at the end of one of the worst and most contentious days of my life). I was no longer required to attend church services and wouldn't be punished for it, and so far, our relationship has actually been pretty good. Probably better than it was in my teen years.
Though I'm still technically Christian. But you try doing all of that in a Mormon household. It isn't easy. Not dissing the religion, I still hold a lot of their stuff dear, but I was tired of the organization, and the garbage I was dealing with.
But, just show it in your actions. Don't be afraid to come out and question one of their beliefs in the event it is brought up. In a non-contentious fashion, mind you.
when I lost my religion when I had a full understanding of christianity and came to my sense, I first stopped going to church, I never told anyone bacause I didnt want to upset them. and now my family have realised and if they ask questions I will tell them. "why do you not go church anymore? - because I dont beilve in christianity." and give them your reasons and hopefully they will understand. simple. because no1 can force you to beileve something. and if in your heart this is what you feel is the right way to go. DO IT! and dont let anybody make you feel like your doing the wrong thing, becasue thats for you to decide!
amblessed is correct, you might not have to - it may show. like you might start to lie, or mislead others, or cheat or steal...oh wait, christians do those also. Just talk to him. Don't get defensive. Share how you feel. Don't get upset and raise your voice. Just be honest and calm. And pick a good time to talk to him. Don't make a big deal out of it like "dad, we need to talk". Just wait until you and your dad are relaxed and enjoying something and then say that you have been wanting to discuss some things with him. Good luck. Be a good person, do no intentional wrong and live your life.
Honestly,
I would really think about whether coming out to your parents that you do not have the same religion as them is that important right now.
I told my parents when I was younger - and they kicked me out of the house. It took years to rebuild that relationship with them and it was not easy.
As long as your under their roof, I would just let it go and live your own life. Religion is a personal thing and there is no reason you should have to go shouting from the rooftops what one you happen to belong too.
First if youve been truely been saved and is truely a christian. then youre that forever. you cant take yourself out of his hands. once the blood has been applied its there forever. if youve been fakin it then all you can do is just come out and tell him face to face.
Ugh... as usual, you don't know what you're talking about.
First if youve been truely been saved and is truely a christian. then youre that forever. you cant take yourself out of his hands. once the blood has been applied its there forever. if youve been fakin it then all you can do is just come out and tell him face to face.
I see no, reason why you should tell them...at least not untill you are not living with them anymore...it might just cause unnecessary issues.
I have never told my parents my religious beliefs...I don't really have any...and it has never done any harm.
Imagine telling your parents you murdered someone. Telling them you're no longer a Christian will get an even stronger response than that quite often. Are you sure that's what you want?
it depends on how seriuosly your parent take religion. I told my mom I was a atheist and she was upset for a while but she got over it.
You might not have to - it may show.
