I have a friend that goes to church and she keeps talking about that our youth service is boring that her friends is better than ours that makes me feel really bad because is like she was talking about god ,me and my pastor.what should I tell her about that?
The important thing is the Gospel. If a given Church is preaching the truth of the Gospel message in all its fulness, that is the important thing. One thing that you need to be careful of is when people change or leave out key parts of the Gospel message, because they don't think that their people will like them.
About what you can say to her: just be the best witness you can. Love her with the love of Christ. As St. Francis of Assisi is proported to have said, "Preach the Gospel always; use words when necessary."
"'John said to him, 'teacher, we saw a man casting out demons in your name, and we forbade him because he was not following us.' But Jesus said, 'Do not forbid him; for no one who does a mighty work in my name will be able soon after to speak evil of me/ For he that is not against us is for us. For truly, I say to you, whoever gives you a cup of water to drink because you bear the name of Christ, whill by no means lose his reward'" (Mark 9:38-41).
"But understand this, that in the last days there will come times of stress. For men will be... lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God, holding the form of religion, but denying the power of it. Avoid such people...For the time is coming when people will not endure sound teaching, but have itching ears they will accumulate for themselves teachers to suit their own likings, and will turn away from listening to the truth and wander into myths" (2 Tim. 3:1-2, 4-5, 4:3-4).
"... sactify Christ as Lord in your hearts. Always be prepared to give an account to anyone who asks a reason for the hope that is in you, but do it with gentleness and reverence so that, when you are maligned, those who defame your good conduct in Christ may themselves be put to shame" (1 Pet 3:15-16)
This is something that has to be continually dealt with, it is the flesh speaking, and not the spirit. That is why it bothers you. We are to be spiritually minded.
I believe I would talk to who ever is over you, your youth pastor, or your pastor, and tell him/her how this is affecting you, and ask for their counsel. This is where ones over us in the faith, really come in handy. When we face a problem, that is bothering us, and have them to go to to find a solution.
She def. needs prayer, but, she probably needs to be able to discuss how she feels with other leaders present. You may be able to get to the bottom of what is bothering her. Perhaps she just needs some extra attention, and this is her way of trying to get it.
I think if it is addressed, that a workable solution can be found. It is never a good thing to let something like this slide, because it will fester, and cause more problems. It is very good of you to seek a solution. And coming here, will give you several different opinions to work with.
Ask your friend if she goes to church to be entertained or to worship God? If the answers the first shame on her. . . if she answers both Again shame on her. . . if she answers the last good for her. If she is in her teens she should be old enough to attend services with the rest of the Church, After all Church services were meant to be a family event. . . . .
Everyone has different personalities. they are just different services. and it doesn't fit her personality. but it fis yours and there is nothing wrong with that. don't let her view give you any grief. let her know that and hope she is grown up enough to agree to disagree about different styles.
tell her that it makes you fell bad and to stop saying bad about your church,and if shes a real friend than she'll understand. and if she happens not to than just how she would fell if some was talking bad about her church!! best of luck!! <3
"Everyone has their own preferences - I prefer my church activities".
thanks yall and god bless you