I know several people in my so called 'friend' group that smoke pot often. I personally don't smoke pot, but the people who do make a big stink about it. I have nothing against it, I just don't do it, so when they smoke pot I don't join them, or if they have friends over and they invite me to come smoke, I can't meet these people because I just don't really want to get involved with smoking pot, then If I try to contact them and ask if I can hang out when they are smoking they just don't respond. I just feel a bit left out because a decent amount of people do it, and I just don't seem to fit in with the scene considering its such a big deal to them. I guess I'm just in an odd place with the whole smoking marijuana thing.
Hi liounleashed,
I knew a lot of people who smoked pot when we were kids. But then I know a lot of folks who didn't and I know people who stopped. I can just tell you this... I think that the people who never smoke and the people who try but don't stick with it are the majority. A lot of youths smoke. But then most people stop as soon as they are out of high school and college.
If people never smoked it or stopped smoking it, I notice they soon become pretty bourgeois when they are adults. They have kids, marry, get a career somewhere and you can keep meeting them at bbq parties or for board game evenings. Many are still fun to hang out with. Most of my friends, and also me, have turned into boring, middle-class home owners with vans in the garage who spend their Saturday evenings mowing the lawn and watching their kids play in the inflatable pool.
People who keep smoking pot, often keep acting like 17-year olds, even though they may be 37. You can find them hanging out, having parties every night, spending all their moneys on hobbies, music festivals and fun stuff they hardly ever have a purposive career. They just need a job to finance their toys, and a rental flat somewhere. Any job will do for them. They regard work as a necessary evil. Most of them just never grow up. They laugh about the responsible, bourgeois people. They are careless, live from one day to the other and amuse themselves. (There are, of course, also a few who started hearing little voices because of excessive drüg use. You find those in the loony bin.)
You have to make your own decisions. But I do think that the drüg-free lifestyle is more satisfying on the long run. Even though others might think that I am ultimately boring.
In school and college, you hang out with your classmates, you go to their parties, of course you know a lot of people who smoke pot. But those friendships will soon get lost and be forgotten. From both sides. If you start looking for a good job to start a career as a wholesale tradesman and they tell you to forget the damn application and come to the rock festival with them, then you will turn away and call them useless potheads and they will turn away and call you a boring babbitt.
Just decide what you want. If your plans for the future are maximum amusement at all costs and risks, then join those people. If you have wishes for a home, a family, wealth, comfort and safety, then stay away from pot.
I can identify with your situation. Pot heads, especially long time users, can get to a place where they only want to hang out with others users. I'm a beer guy, but have a couple friends that are pot heads, they know I'm cool with it even though I don't smoke, but they never stop here cause theres no weed, but if I stop there they are glad to see me. What I hate about pot heads is that intelligent conversation with them is impossible. Their subject changes constantly and they talk all the time. They never shut up. It gets on my nerves so I don't go see them anymore. These are functioning, responsibe people with good jobs (like me) but I just can't deal with em anymore. Don't worry, you will meet new friends and just think, you don't have to ever worry about passing a drug test for a job or anything else.
i used to, a while ago but i don't think i ever liked it. then one day i said hey i'm done with it. i lost alot of "friends" cuz of it, but it made me realize that was all we had in common and we obvisously weren't good friends. I don't like the smell or the feeling of being high personally. but i believe its a personal choice and most ppl i know that smoke are very on dl about it, and don't talk about it, or do it in front of me, and respect me for my decision not to cuz i respect their decision to want to. you just got put your foot down and tell them i don't care if you do but i'd really like it if you respect me and not do it around me and if you don't like it then we shouldn't be friends in the first place.
i used to, a while ago but i don't think i ever liked it. then one day i said hey i'm done with it. i lost alot of "friends" cuz of it, but it made me realize that was all we had in common and we obvisously weren't good friends. I don't like the smell or the feeling of being high personally. but i believe its a personal choice and most ppl i know that smoke are very on dl about it, and don't talk about it, or do it in front of me, and respect me for my decision not to cuz i respect their decision to want to. you just got put your foot down and tell them i don't care if you do but i'd really like it if you respect me and not do it around me and if you don't like it then we shouldn't be friends in the first place.
Believe me when I say I'm in the same position as you are!! My close group of friends that I've grown with have all and mostly left me out of the loop because they've just degraded their lives and I don't want to be a part of it!! From old girl friends that have FWB and tell me to sleep around, ones that do excessive drug5 of all sorts and tell me to get high with them and do crazy sh!t... It seems as if they're trying to change me for the worse!! I'm glad you know where you stand however, be strong and find a group of people who aren't such a bad influence... once you hit uni/college you'll find a whole variety and trust me, people are MUCH more mature there :)
I think there's a lot of people who do . I know billions of people who do . Ok maybe I'm exaggerating a little but you get my point . A girl in my class is a huge d r u g g i e ! I don't really like her . She only 13 ]= But don't feel pressured to do it . I'm proud of you for not joining in with them ! [= I know a lot of people who would and I'm NOT proud to say I would . I want to fit in which I know is stupid BUT I still would . I haven't yet tho . I wouldn't do it on my own tho . D r u g s are bad mm'kay ! Anyways , try hanging out with those people less to feel less pressured . Don't fall into that crowd !
Most potheads don't give a f!ck if you smoke or not...and it's usually not a big deal at all. But I agree, it's kinda hard to be friends with people who're high all the time while you're not, lol. I'd say try and befriend the people who don't smoke weed, however many that might be :P
Lots of people do. But there are plenty who don't at the same time. Don't let anyone pressure you into it! I respect that you haven't folded into feeling under pressure! If it is too much, look for friends who don't and have the same intersts like you. I know plenty who don't.
Don't generalize. I've had many intelligent conversations with potheads and people have had many intelligent conversations with me. Maybe the potheads you talk to were just unintelligent to begin with lol.
Well, thats a good point but considering there are 30 years difference between our age groups, maybe your pot heads aren't quite " fried " yet. It takes time.
Yeahh. But just stay true to yourself. If there you're friends they should respect your decsisions. If not. Get new freinds. ♥
no its really no big deal i just smoke for my own reasons but not so much proud
Why don't you try and join a club or something? flirt with a girl ?
That's nice. I'm assuming you're exceptionally proud of that?
i believe so and i am a part of that population!!
I'd say so. Couldn't you find different friends?
i believe so and i am a part of that population!!
I guess in time. When I open up a bit more.
most people i know smoke the dank
^ I spelled friends wrong D:
