Is it considered abuse when parents hit their children to discipline them?
Well...it's up to each set of parents how they discipline their own child and No One should be able to tell them they can't do something...UNLESS they cross the line.
Apparently in PA you can spank your child on the bottom (or anywhere else) as long as it doesn't leave a mark. Of course people should not go around and spank their kids just because they won't leave a mark. There are definately abuse cases where the children had no marks on them but social workers say that this is a sure fire way to lose your children. This was learned from a neighbor who spanked his son on his butt and left a bruise. The childs day care called Social Services who then sent someone to talk to the father after examining the child. The father was told he could spank his son as long as he left no bruises or marks.
Apparently to qualify as abuse you have to leave a bruise on your child. Don't get me wrong I don't think there is anything wrong with spanking your own child and sometimes my own kids get spanked. But I do believe that a lot of parents spank because they are angry and want to punish their child instead of disciplining them.
of course it's not okay but people in different regions look at it differently. I don't think it's okay no matter where you are. but coming from an european background, my parents would JOKE about beating the crap out of me and nobody even flinched, they thought it was perfectly fine. God forbidi tried to tell anyone they would take my head off...
I told my therapist in rehab years later, with my mother there she flipped the hell out and was denying it, saying it's okay that I deserved it, and noone can tell her how to discipline her child. it depends on cultures, where you live...etc. and how people view it from your region. it's terrible.
but honestly, if my kid called me a B*tch you better belive I would smack them. Abuse and discipline are different things.
no it is not considered abuse when a parent hits their children to discipline them its called proper parenting. that's why a lot of children today have no respect for their parents because they are afraid to discipline them cause some one might call DYFS on them its not fair to us as parents that we are suppose to let our children control our household at a very young age. my mother hit all her children and it didnt make us have less respect for her we learned to respect her more and others we didnt go around disrespecting our elders and we all turned out fine no one self esteem was damaged. I think its a bunch of bull cause there is no win win situation
People take this subject way too far.
I spank my daughter, my mom spanked me, and her parents spanked her.
There's no criminal history in any of those generations.
Hitting your kids out of anger is abusive and causes psychological problems later on. A swift swat on the butt to teach a mouthy child to respect adults is not hitting.
The idea that these two things were one and the same became popular sometime around the time that Dr. Spock said that "spanking" your kids would damage their self-esteem, and since he was a professional, everyone assumed his word was law. Dr. Spock's own son committed suicide and now we have school shootings.
Look, as a mother I spank my kids, because I want them to know the difference between right and wrong. My father spanked me, and so did his parents spank him. I don't think spanking a child, is a bad correction, for any child. You can spank as long as you talk to the child, about why he did and what he can do to correct the mistake that child did. That's discipline and perfect discipline, keep the lines of communication. But there are always consequences for the choices we make whether child or adult.
well I am a child...14yr and my dad hits me and my brother around. he made my brothers ear bleed just because he said ok in am impatient tone. he hit me just before because I got a bad school report. he does it to little things to often and he couldnt care less if we are girls or boys. I would fight back but he is twice the size of me and there would be nothing stopping him from seriously injuring me or...killing me
I've always been hit and I do think its warped my view of the world , the main way I was hurt was through my hair being pulled or being kicked but it never left marks, and a had a cup of juice thrown over me before. It is wrong my parents always went on about their parents doing it before them but this is a different era and kids should have respect for their parents, I definitely don't .
Child abuse is the physical or psychological/emotional mistreatment of children. In the USA, the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) define child maltreatment as any act or series of acts of commission or omission by a parent or other caregiver that results in harm, potential for harm, or threat of harm to a child.
It's abuse to hit children. Period.
say the childs 14 and their just sitting their minding their own buisness and their dad just comes up to them and starts going off and then belts them across the arm and then grabs both their arms and squeezes and lifts them by their arms while squeezing them and carrys them into their room... is that child abuse? I swear it is but my parents dont think so
hitting is hitting is hitting. I dont care what you call it, but its wrong for an adult to take their anger out on a child physically. Physical punishment is wrong, spanking, hitting, punching, slapping, anything that could hurt a child, And I am pretty sure child services would get involved if a child called them for any reason
no it isn, whenever I have a kid ill discpline them if they do wrong...a spankin on the butt itsn going to warp them or anythin, it didnt me and isn abusin them...so no it isn discpline and if you do it out of madness then it isn a spankin...but theres a difference not ever little pat on the butt is abuse
Now a days,DSS can take your kid for just about anything.So Probably.
But A lot of religions Say that spankings and whatnot are a good way to discipline.
As long as you dont take it too far,like by hitting them with objects other than your hands,or in places other than their bottoms,I think its okay.
my opinion smackin a child is not abuse if you just do it once not too hard on th bottom if you hit more then once them its abuse, it also depens on th age of the child. I was smacked as a child it didnt do me no harm but it learnt me wot I would and wouldnt do to my own children
I think a spank on the bums ok if the child has done something wrong and the parent doesnt use this as an excuse to resease their own anger. Anything more I would say is abuse. Although it can be difficult to prove anything or otherwise, its just one's word against the others.
Depends. Occasional "spanking" on the rear end for very serious infractions isn't abuse (in my opinion). I'm not a firm believer in spanking, as there is a very thin line between that and taking it too far. Hitting children, slapping their faces is DEFINITELY abuse.
parents have no right to put their hands on a child
because they are defenseless and its wrong
and if you actually think about it when someone hits you, you are given the right to hit them back in defense...
so the kid has the right to swing right back at them
I think it depends on what state/country you live in and how severely the kids are beaten, I think, I mean parents cant just go knocking their kids heads off for like eating cookies before dinner, but ya I think it depends on the state.
I think it depends. Is the adult hitting the child to genuinely discipline them or are they hitting them because they are frustrated and irritated at what the child is doing?
if they are spanking their kids on the butt no...
but anywhere else yes its chile abuse..
As long as they don't cross the line into abuse - not excessive and on the butt only.
no it's abuse when parents just hit kids just to do it.