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My dad and I got in a really big fight and he called me a moron and stupid and ignorant and retarded and it made me upset and I cried a lot and told him that he needed to get a job since he didn't have one. He has warts on his feet and so he doesn't have a job. I proceeded to tell him that he could get a job sitting down somewhere. And that he'd be okay if he did that. So then he told me to fu** off and that I was a little spoiled as* bith. And then my mom told me to go get tennis shoes. So I did and she filled them with rocks and told me to walk around our circl of our subdivision four times. My shoes were so filled with rocks that she hsad to shove my feet in them. It hurt like he*. And me being stubborn as I am showeed no pain while walking and just kept going. After about 1 and a half times my sister came and found me and said they said I could come back.. when I got back my feet and heels and toes were all bleeding. My mom said she didn't realize it'd do that and started crying saying she was sorry and stuff. I was in shock and couldn't stop crying because who's parent does something that cruel? Its been two weeks now and there are still sores on the backs of my heels. And I'm just wondering what exactly you'd consider this? My parents verbally abuse me all the time but it doesn't bother me much I just block it out because all parents and kids argue.. but wasn't forcing me to walk on rocks? She said she wanted to teach me a lesson on how my dad felt walking everyday. Opinions?
well if my daughter had ur mouth she will suffer the consequence and if she knows how to respect her elders I am sure i will be the sweetiest parent ever. If ur 16 Why the beep does it say ur 18? look u don't have to go anywhere ur parents didn't do crap sweetie, they punished u for what u said. They didn't beat u to death, so stop making it sound that way. BTW, i don't have issues..i aint no spoiled brat for sure I learned the hard core which is REALITY.. are u gonna disrespect ur boss, ur husband one day like this? Ok both of u disrespected each other, he didn't do nothing to punish u, it was ur mom which she regrets (u mentioned her being emotional) if i were u i will take that into consideration and say its a punishment not child abuse..clearly u don't know the def. for neither of them..child abusive parents don't have a heart ur mom cried, regrets it.. I really can't help u there i don't know the other side (ur dad) ur saying many things and i aint no therapist..i just gave my opinion..I get a bunch of sh!t from my parents..at age 14 my dad kicked me out the house and my mom beat me with a belt but thank god they shaped me into the women I am now, otherwise i would have been a bad b!tch.. all in all, ur sheltered thats all it matters ur not being abused so think about it? if u don't like him wait till ur 18 and ur financially stable and move the heck out but if ur livingunder his roof follow his rules.
Wow.. you are a hardcore mean lady. I hope you nnever become a parent. And I'm 16. Not 18. Sure I could move out.. but where the heck would I go? And I do have a job thank you. But it barely pays enough to drive me to my school which is 30 minutes away. So I usuallly ride the bus.. and if you don't think that making your kid walking around the block and bruising the bottoms of their feet with rocks and making them bleed I believe you might have some issues. Yes I disrespected him, but he disrespected me first and he hasn't been in my life until recently.. he was never around. I don't believe he has the right to barge back in and just take over.. he might be my dad in blood but he's not my dad in my heart. He tells me he. Doesn't like me.. I was a mistake. How do you respect someone wwho cheated on your mom multiple times? Who has other kids out in the world he has nothing to do with? Who tells you the dog is more important than you. How would you feel? Think about it. God people are cold these days.
She made you walk around like that because you were insulting your father about the warts. She wanted to make you see how he felt when he walked. It was showing you to stop being mouthy. Do you have a job? Are you helping to pay bills? If not, you have no right to tell your dad to get a job. You're dad however, shouldn't be calling you names like that, he's a grown man and he should grow up. He's obviously wanting to be able to work, but I'm assuming he can't, so he's hurt by that enough already, and you insulting him hurts him more, making him angry and wanting to lash out.... Watch how you speak to your parents and be more respectful, and they should treat you better. It's obvious your mom really loves and cares for you if she cried over that. You and your father were both at fault here. If he acted like this without you being mean and insultful, yes it would be abuse. But you in turn are abusing your father mentally. Think about it
Insulting your father like that was disrespectful, though I understand that at the moment you may have felt there was nothing else you could do to respond to the awful names he was calling you. That does sound like verbal abuse. The punishment that was inflicted on you sounds more like torture than something meant to teach you a lesson. A punishment should not in any way be meant to hurt the child, emotionally or physically. Parents who forget this are no better than those who hit their children out of spite. While disrespecting your parents was absolutely unacceptable, I feel that parents often forget that respect goes both ways. Parents are role models for their children, and teaching children that it is okay to hurl personal attacks on others will only set them up for unhealthy social relationships in the future.
unless u R an PHD therapist u can jump to conclusions.. not to mention ur only 15, u don't know much either. If u take this to the cops they'll probably laugh at u for asking if its abuse. WHAT EVER HAPPENED to PUNISHMENTS? now a days u ground ur kid its all of a sudden verbal abuse..she called her dad a bunch of names heck she didn't even explain her set of circumstances beside "me and my dad a had a huge fight" shes sheltered, her mom cried and i am not surprised her dad didn't knock her out cold tells me those parents are caring ..u make it sound as if he punched her. She called him a bunch of names and her mom made her walk on rocks, my dad will make me walk on needles grl! she deserved it, no offense but bad mouthing don't get u know where in life...shes not 12 shes 18..
Well it's not fair of your dad to abuse you verbally and it's also not fair to hang something over his head that he is unable to do. I've never heard of a punishment like this and I'm really not sure if it's child abuse. It's certainly not an acceptable punishment though. To me, the "punishment" sounds more like torture. Next time you disagree with your parents, realize that usually what they ask you to do or say you can't do, is for the best. That's in most cases. Verbal abuse is still abuse. Make sure you let your parents know. Tell them how you feel. I'm only 14 and I know nothing of parenting and such, but I do know about verbal abuse from parents. Well, just my mom when she's angry. Hope I helped. So sorry if I didn't.
hells NO grl if i insulted my dad i will be walking on needles.. these days kids are spoiled i was literally beaten by belt if i talked back to my teacher and not only that i would get home and be beaten by my parents for having a reputation at school now things are loosening we get away with so much. If i had a mouth like u (disrespecting my father) clearly u have no rights since u don't do nothing I would be living outside. Honey ur mom loves u and i am sure ur DAD TOO but inorder to get respect, u need to play the cards;)
Chill abuse no! Abuse period yes!! Regardless if ur an adult or not...its still abuse....regardless if u bad mouthed ur father he had no rite to call u the names he did and ur mother had no rite to make u wear those shoes....ur 18 big fuken deal...what in the hell is the difference??? Abuse is abuse and pardon my french but I hope them fukers get what they deserve and then some....I look down very badly on abusers....my daughter went through it from her father no 1 regardless of age should have to indure such heartache
Chikd abuse no! Abuse period yes!! Regardless if ur an adult or not...its still abuse....regardless if u bad mouthed ur father he had no rite to calk u the names he did and ur mother had no rite to make u wear thise shoes....ur 18 big fuken deal...what in the hell is the difference??? Abuse is abuse and pardon my french but I hope them fukers get what they deserve and then some....I look down very badky on abusers....my daughter went through it from her father
No - you're 18 and most definitely not a child. You did not have to walk in the shoes. I'm not sure where you live but child abuse in the UK would be classed as hitting, slapping, kicking, punching or torturing a child for reasons that does not include punishment. I don't believe verbal abuse is an offence as it's hard to know whether a person was provoked by anger or not. It's not child abuse and you can move out if you want.
shes not considered a kid..shes 18 honey..when i ran away at 17 almost 18 the cops told my parents theres no use for them to look for me i am almost an adult.. my point is, she was REALLY rude with her dad.. and if shes not helping pay the bills she needs to SUCK IT up..ur living under there roof follow there RULES:)
colleen: dont take this personal. But you really dont know her set of circumstances. Her parents prob dont want to take her to work. And yes it is abuse would you call your child retarded? Not at all. Its verbal abuse. Thats coming from my mom PHD therapist.
to be honest just because your 18 does not mean your ready to leave your house... and if there still in high school how do you want them to get a job to be able to support them selves.becuase youd probs need a full time job to support ones self
and i also got a job when i was 15.but still its really hard to live by your self..and no parent should call there kid a moron or stupid or any of those things. no matter what the kids does
I'd have to agree. It might be harsher punishment than what most are used to, but I find most parents are much too easy on their children and let them get away with anything.
im not sure. theyve tried before but it didnt work. they run in the family. im the only one who didnt get them out of my family. i guess i should consider myself lucky.
Child abuse? No - you're 18. How about YOU get a job, move out, and support yourself so your parents don't have to worry about you and your smarta$$ attitude.
Is it abuse if they slap you in the face if it dosent hurt that bad? And if there is no poof they slapped you does it still make it abuse?
Is it abuse if they slap you in the face if it dosent hurt that bad? And if there is no poof they slapped you does it still make it abuse?
Jenndue.i just saw the kayla made a post about 21 days ago asking another question and in it says shes on 16...soooo yea
verbal abuse and name calling is abuse there is always a better ways to communicate with your child.
yes i would say so, making you walk with rocks in your shoes is pretty harsh! sorry about that...
you are supposably 18 years old, right? if you do not like your parents move out
ummmm yea... if that keeps going you need to call child and family services
It sounds like your whole family could use some counseling in my opinion.
oh ok.cuz i know i had one on my hand and they removed it
i started working in the fields since i was 14
not really fair..but cant warts be removed...?
and im sorry to hear they did that you
oh gawd im srry..yes it is..
