Abuse or discipline??

I spanked my 4 year old daughter with a plastic spoon (like the cheap spoons you would get in a set to stir soups and such)I spanked her twice once hard and second not as hard. I left two snall marks on her bottom. I am not against spanking but I am sorry that I did it too hard. My husband and I both grew up getting spanked with spoons or belts and I remember having marks of the belt on my butt. I did not feel like I was being abused nor did I hate my parents for it. Like I mentioned, I wish I had never spanked her that hard but do I deserve to be called a child abuser for one time mistake? The biological father of my two kids called Social Services and now I have not seen or talked to my children in over 2 weeks!!! I am devasted! He is angry for losing custody a month before this incident and now he is lying and making everything sound worst than it really is. I am waiting on the DA to see if they will press charge either way I will not be allowed to get my children back until I take some classes. Also, they have granted my ex temporary full custody. I just want my children back more than anything. They have a good home and I am involved in their lives completely. Their father has not once been to my son’s school, he is 6 years old and school is almost out now.

Can anyone please tell me your opinion on this? You can also email me at isabeldryden@yahoo.com