I feel that my mom favors my older brother and sister more than me. Im the youngest and it just feels that whatever they ask for my mom gives it to them no questions asked. If I need anything I always get yelled at before it happens.. its been this way since I can remember. I've been living my life too scared to ask my mom for help or anything at all. Im moving out of my dorm today and my mom isnt even coming for me.. she wants me to get a ride with my boyfriend which is totally okay... but now that im packed I realized that all of my things wont fit in his car...So I asked her if she could come for me instead and all I got from ger was screaming.. "make it fit.. you know what to do..what do you want me to do about it...I dont have time for this right now" when my sister moved out of her dorm my mom was there..to take her stuff and bring it back..im alway being compared to my sister and I hate it. im not her im me and I just want to to be loved for being me. do you think im over reacting or is she favoring them more than me?
any advice will help.
I understand you, it hepens to me the same... I have an older sister and everyone loves her and I feel just like you, but you know what... it is normal in nature, there is always a sibling that gets more the atention than the others... there is always a sibling that gets the less atention than the others. Its like animal reactions, those acts are like animal acts.
Analize what your siblings do that atracts your mums atention and love... maybe they are more fun, charismatic, etc. You could do what they do and in that way manipulate your mother (you know people are more like animals than you think) and that way have her atention.
But what I would do... and thats what I do seens I am in the same situation is just ignore it, go and live far away from your family and just forget those animal things, live your life. Love them and vecit them but its ok to worry about that, its ok to feel bad, its ok is your mother doesnt helps you in anything, im shure you can live without her help... I mean how much can an old woman do hahahaha. If you reallly really want her love and atention like she does with your sister just act like your sister, do charismatic things... but remmber it is not personal, it is not that your mother doesnt loves you, its just animal acting... like you liking being with some people more than with other, some people are just fun and some are more boring.
good luck, hope it helped
I know what your going through, but from a different Point of veiw. Im the oldest of 4 brothers and sisters and I feel that my mom only cares for my brother. So what I'm trying to say is that it doesn't matter what order your born in weather your the oldest like me or the youngest like you everyone always feels un wanted at one point. I think what your mom is doing is kind of not far. You should try to talk to your Mom about how you feel and tell her that you want a closer relationship.
I feel the same way!!
I don't really think there is anything you can do but to ask her why.
Somtimes they don't even reallize it.
But them again..... I don't really know why they would feel that way about you and not your siblings. Just try to be respectful with her and maybe things will turn out right. otherwise she'll have a reason to favor your sibling.
Sorry I was'nt much help,
I'd try to have a calm sit-down conversation with your mother and explain your feelings to her. Maybe even show her a copy of your post. She really may not realize that there is a problem that needs to be resolved.
It's all about communication. You must find a way to communicate with her!
I feel the same way too.. but my case is becos am more offensive to the others.. I don't behave my age I behave older and nutty