What to do when you feel neglected?

Ok so I dont have a lot of things wrong with me but I do have things wrong with me.. And im not talkin mentally . Well anyhow I need surgery on my mouth because I have an underbite and need braces afterwards. We found this out in 2008. Well I was spossed to go to the orthadontics every year to get x-rays .. Thing is I only got x-rays once. I tell my mom all the time we need to make appointments cause my mouth be hurting and its cause of my teeth and the way my mouth is positioned .well she seems not to care ill remind her constantly but she always seems to forget things when it comes to me specially the important things … And she pays my brothers one 21 and the other 13 more attention the me like she constantly wants to know where their at and what there doing .. With me she could care less.. Then she will get mad at them for sumthn and take it out on me contantly. And I literally have no one all my so called friends dont wanna hang out with me cause of my mother and brothers. She wont move us round any fam members. And my dad is dead. So like really I have no one. And everytime I try to talk to her we end up arguin because either she wont listen to what I have to say or disagrees with everything I say or dont want to accept her wrong doing.

I feel so neglected and like no one cares :( Please juss give me advice no negative comments please

Answer #1

@ nan I do nothinbut show my mom love and I barely ask her for anything all I ever want to do is spend time with her and have a gd mother daughter relatonship with her.. hard to believe for a 15 year old huh? well its true.. my brothers always aske her for money and things everydayi ask maybe ever 3 to 4 months and never ask her for money because if I do ill regret it well anyway she says I only love her for the things she does for me and she really does nothin for me. I always try and talk to her and she either falls asleep on me. or starts doing something else or ignores me.. so I really dont think im the problem. and she thinks everything I do or dont do is wrong:( im the only girl she has out of 2 boys and there was a time where I wasthe only girl with 4 boys and got treated this way then. im the only one out of her 3 kids that has not been in trouble with the law and I work hard I school and stuff but get treated like crap

Answer #2

Sometimes in life when things that we think should be happening are not then maybe its not time for them to be happening even though we feel they are supppose to be when we think they should because we know they are. At this time in your life what you think is important isn’t. Change your focus, what else is there to think about? Maybe you are overlooking someone in your life who needs your support and help right now and your not seeing it.What is really going on around you. Stop thinking about whats wrong and who is hurting you and start thinking about where you can do a loving act. Feed an animal. Talk to a older lonely person. Play with a child. Give of yourself and ask for nothing and see the miracles in your own life. I have a feeling You will no longer feel negleced and unloved. Theres an old clice “Treat someone the way that you want to be treated.” And most of all be loving to your mom without exspecting anything. That will be your greatest gift

Answer #3

if you need follow up appointments and your mam wont make them then see if you can do it your self you dont wanna wait too long for it to cause more problems with your mouth if you can and she doesnt do anything then there should be some proffessional that can help x

Answer #4

Well this isnt realy bein neglated…

but it seems that your mom has a lot of things to do on her hands, she has lots to do and it seems like she is not orgonized pearson. Sometimes it may feel to you that she pays more attencion to your brothers and sisters but meaby they feel the same way you just don’t know it yet. Try to help out your mom and all that… meaby building squedules and all that, wrighting important things in front of her sight.

Answer #5

i agree with you. From what you have said it does sound like you are being emotionally neglected. I guess the best you can do is just join alot of clubs and sports and try to keep a little bit more away from your abusive family if you dont like them. I was emotionally abused and neglected aswell. my dad has been belittling me for as long as i could remember and he never talked to me. this abuse/neglect showed when i was in 9th grade. i was scared to death afraid of people and about doing the wrong thing. it got to the point where i would just sit at my desk and literally just stare at my book for hours at school (and everywhere else) because i was so self conscious and terrified that i would look weird. Now isnt that pathetic? Your lucky you never got that emotionally abused and neglected.

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