Soo I have this really over protective boyfriend. We have been together for two years and I love him to death! However, im really tired of everyday him asking me..."did you talk to any boys today?" and when I say yes he gets mad. I keep telling him if he doesnt stop being this way..im gone. But he says, "if you really loved me you wouldnt be trying to change me, you should love me the way I am" okay I do love him the way he is!! But ceratin things really do aggravate me!! Id like to be able to do talk to my guy friends and do things with my girls without him questioning me!!! hes says he acts this way bc im soo beautiful and hes afraid of losing me but im faitful and with him!! So I wash he would just stop!! I don't know what to do =( can some one please give me some advice?!?!
I realy understand what your going through,me and my boyfriend have been going out for 2years aswell. and hes over pretective aswell.I realy relate to everything you said.hes cheated before,but we got through it and now I think hes so over pretective because hes worried im going to cheat on him back.but I would never cheat on him,and never have,but he is so paranoid he actuly thinks I have. I've made mistakes but I dont think its fair for him to make me pay for them. and yes he says the same thing your boyfriend says.he says that all the guys will try get with me. its realy annoying.I've tried leaving him, and I understand its so hard.he has realy got to me, im so stressed and I hate it.I dont hang out with my friends cause he thinks im going out to meet up with boys. I think the best thing you could do is try have some more more talks, but I think that if he realy truly loves you that when you walk away and he relises that your not coming back then he`ll relise what he had done and try change to get you back.if yous are meant to be together then yous will be. thats what gets me to try walk away. I no I havent yet. but .. im trying . I no its hard.
thats a hard situation which I've been thru many times! if I was you I wouldnt stay in that relationship. but two years being together makes it hard! very hard to just leave. he sounds like a guy that just expects everything to be perfect. nobody is completely perfect. he cant think that there wont be anything wrong with him in your eyes. I love my boyfriend, and hes perfect, but hes not perfect perfect. I cant complain about our relationship but there are things I absolutely hate about him. but youll find that in everyone. if he wont trust you after this long, you need to make him trust you. it wont be easy, but you might have to scare him into changing. its hard, but thats what I always did, and it worked :)
sounds like he needs to take his own advice
because im sure he would have chick friends
and you both have every right to have friends, no matter what gender they are
having friends has nothing to do with changing someone
it doesnt even have anything to do with him unless there mutual friends
and if its just a freindship you have with them, your not doing anything wrong
so either hes too overprotective and will get worse later on
or is just insecure...
but you do need to have a talk with him
tell him you have a right to have friends, male and female, just as he does
and that asking if "you talked to any boys today" is what youd expect your father to say, but not your partner
he might be over protective because he has been cheated on in the past and since you have been in this relationship for 2 years he might think you dont mind that much that he is overprotective and he might of been in a relatioship where the girl liked an over protective boyfriend so its hard for him to change or he is truely scared to lose you that he is overprotective or he has trust issues because he has been fucked over before and this is how he feels close to you and makes him feel like your not gonna leave him because "I love you" are just 3 words that dont mean anything unless there is something behind it like showing your partner you truely love them
You may love him, but he either sounds like he is controlling you, or has a guilty conscience.
People who cheat or have cheated in the past - often get over protective and assume that their partner is cheating on them or is going to cheat.
You need to seriously sit down and talk to him. Tell him how you feel. If he doesn't want to change, then he really does not love you. A relationship takes compromise and if he's not willing too, then leave him.
well let him know you dont have time to wait. if he loved you he wouldnt want to hurt you the way he is. tell him you cant handle the pain anymore and that you need him to change right away or else it might not work out. and see how it goes <33
That's a classic line hun, all overprotective as*hole men use that. Dont fall for it.
You have given him time, you've been together 2 years. Leave him. I know it's hard, but he has issues and it dragging you down with him.
well he says he trust me :( just says he doesnt trust the guys that talk to me...
=( I've sat him down pleabty of times and he says to give hime time to change...
as a man I could never ever
being like that!
what the f*ck is wrong with men these days?