Some parents spank their kids and I have no problem with that. Im 15 and I was spanked till I was 12. now I just get grounded. I was hit from everything from a hairbrush, paddle, switch, toys, curling irons, wooden spoons, ect. But I was never beat. I always thought my mom was beating me but truly she was just spanking my ass. she did it for a reason and I dont blame her. But, some of my friends' moms and dads spank then with the same things but differntley. Whats the differnece?
The difference is when it crosses the line from being 'for discipline'- as in to teach you a lesson that you have done wrong and to encourage you to not do it again- to 'out of anger'. Yes, a parent can be angry and spank, but the goal is to discipline, not harm or humiliate- most parents can accomplish discipline even when they're irritated with you. When the parent is simply hitting the child to hurt them or because they are so angry they are losing control, that is abuse.
The intensity is also a key factor. A spanking consists of a few swats, smacks, or paddlings on the rear end/ sometimes upper thigh (if they miss a bit)- just enough to hurt so the message sinks in. Anywhere else (besides a hand-smack for a small child) is wrong. Anything extreme is wrong. A spanking should not leave bruises or welts- anything beyond a BRIEF redness (if any at all!) is too extreme!
the difference is when they start doin it for no reason...when theyr totally mean about it and keep doin it ovr and ovr again...then that means their probably being abused
My cousin dhe gets beaten but is like whit the sweeper and bruises are left and everything but just hitting so you can learn is just educational.
I think that if a slap goes beyond a little bit of redness such as blood, bruises, then that is unneccesary.
One is done out of love and the other out of frustration.
What it technically is...it think...