I have a 7 year old child and I use spankings as a punishment. I want to know how hard to spank them and how many times... thanks
Generally, don't spank as spanking usually only changes the immediate moment, without really changing overall behavior. That being said, occasionally you might have to resort to it when safety is involved - e.g. stop them from repeatedly running out into the street. (But of course, the child has to be able to understand about consequences of his actions.) When you do spank, open hand only, on the bottom only, and only one swat. More than one swat is ALWAYS just your anger being released on the child. (E.g. If John Cena punched a loony that was waving around a brick, that would be for protection. If he kept hitting the loony, it would be for revenge.) The main thing to remember is that bringing up kids is not a matter of letting them grow without any control. And then after a while finding you have an out of control kid on your hands, and then trying to resort to force.
It takes a huge commitment of you time, patience, and dedication to raise kids. And it has to start from the beginning. That is a big reason that it is best that two people raise a child, because they can support each other.
When I was younger, both me and my sister used to get smacked when we were younger by my father. Now that we are older, we have learned to behave because of how hard our father hit us. Now you might say that its an offence to hit children when their younger, but both me and my sister are now well behaved thanks to our father hitting us whenever we did something naughty. So my advice is this, you may need to teach your children a lesson whenever they have done something naughty, and not hit them too hard, just enough so that they learn their lesson
Spank them to the point where they cry, but don't leave a mark.
Spanking is not abuse; it's discipline. Spanking communicate the rules, boundaries and limitations in clear terms that very young children can understand. Parents shouldn't have to waste their time "reasoning" with toddlers.
Children should never be spanked. If it were an adult it would be an arrestable offence. Children have every right not to be conditioned to think of this as acceptable.
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SPANKING ISENT THE RITE THING TO DO you SHOULD JUST SIT WITH YOUR CHILD QUIETLY UNTIL HE/SHE CALMS DOWN NO SPANKING AT ALL ITS ILIGAL
okay, thanks for the great advise everyone :)
Um try talking things out. Spanking = abuse
TALK,TALK,TALK 2 your child spanking=wrong