how do I kiss and finger her if I'm not a lesbian?

um no offense but if you want to have a friends with benefits thing with your female friend you are either bisexual bicurious or lesbian and thats some pretty kinky stuff to be wanting to get into id just ask if I were you just try to bring up a conversation around the subject then lead it where you want to go and say it

I agree with the above adviser!

I know how younger people are though and my ex-wife had her first sexual experience with a girl and I know it is less intimidating. Explain to your friend your thoughts and curiosities. DO NOT INVITE OTHERS!!!

I still do not advise any sexual activity until you are educated on the matter.

you should just tell her how you feel becase im bi and I tell my friends and most of the time it works!!!

no your extreemly young you shouldnt be involved with guys or girls like that at your age the guys usually just either want to have sex with you or want to see you doing stuff with the other girl you much too young to be doing any of it and should at least learn about sex first as I’ve said in your other question learn about the famel reproductie systsem and about stds. she could have one because shes no longer a virgin dont get guys involved though, not at your age and it would be better to wait untill your older and more educated before you start getting sexually active