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I just broke up with this girl that I have been seeing for 6 months, when we got together, it was like love at first sight, she had just broke up with her ex-boyfriend of 3years, and I had just left a 5 months relationship. Everything was going great and a few months later, like 2, her ex tried to get back with her. He called her constantly, came to her job and all that; he even went as far as talking to her parents. Through all this she always said that she loved me and that she just didn't know how to get rid of this dude, she even said that she never thought that she would love anyone else. Things were great, I mean I was there for her, did everything for her, but somehow, she just wasn't giving me all her love. We broke up a few times, because, she said that she was very confused and that she just couldnât concentrate on our relationship, this never lasted, we always got back together. Two months ago, she finally decided to break it off completely with her ex, telling him that it was over and that they wouldn't get back together. Everything was cool until, she talked to him on the net and found out that he was seeing this other girl and that he was bragging about how he was gonna sleep with this new chick, posting everything on the net, she called me crying and I was cool with it like I understand, and she told me that it was the last time she would cry because of him. We moved on but 2 weeks ago we got into a stupid fight and we didn't talk for a day, I wrote her an e-mail to apologize since I was the one who got mad for nothing but she didnât responded like I expected, I asked her what was going on and she said that we needed to talk, she came to my place and she told me that she is still confused about her ex and that she couldnât be with me if she still had feelings for him, she told me that it wasnât me that it was her and that what we had was great and that she loved me , but she still couldnât forget about him. I told her that I understood and that we were gonna stay friends, it was difficult because I still love her but I decided to let her go and since then I have been out with my friends and I even met other girls, but I still think about her. I havenât talked to her in a while but deep down in my heart I still want to be with her, so my question is should I stay in touch?? (She wants us to stay close friends) or just move on?? I feel like even if they get back together it wonât last because they were on and off so much in the past. Are they soul mates or is it just that she is still attached since he was her first love?? Thank you in advance for your advice; I really donât know what to do
First loves are hard to forget especially when it lasted 3 years. You did good in finally staying away from any relationship with her and meeting new people. I think the best thing she needs and most importantly you need is time apart. You can still keep in touch but do so every once in a while. The more you forget about what you could of had the more chances you will have of getting something better with someone else. Partly the reason for you still wanting her back deep down inside is because you haven't found someone as good or even better than her. Give yourself time to find a girl that will be everything you wanted and give you the love and attention you crave.
OK FIRST THING IS FIRST, IF SHE SIAD THAT SHE WOULD NOT GO BACK WITH HER EX THEN WHY DID SHE BREACK UP WITH U? NOW TO DO THIOS PLAN YOU HAVE TO GO TO HER JOB BRING ROSES AND CHOCOLATE AND TELL HER THAT YOU LOVE HER. TRUST ME IT WILL WORK. AND IF THAT DOSENT THEN JUST MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE THE PEARSON THAT YOU LOVED IS JUST A CHAPTER IN YOUR LIFE. SO GO OUT WITH OTHER GIRLS IT OK BUT JUST MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE YOUR MENT TO BE WITH SOMEONE ELSE.
good luck!!!!
sometimes change is scary for people and going back to the past or holding on to the past is better than moving on. people who are in bad relationships don't understand a real one and get scared confuse and do dumb stuff at times.
