Why are suicidal ideations seen as selfish?

She said ideations, she didnt say she was going to kill herself. Thoughts are not exactly under her control.

Because people freak out at the thought of death. It reminds them of their mortality and their pain at other people’s deaths. So they dont want to deal with it. They also feel like you’re asking them to rescue you or to do something and they dont want that responsibility. Basically, people are selfish. Even people who really should know better. I was with another counselor and we’re talking to this 82 year old lady who was talking about dying. The counselor immediately said ‘dont say that, you’ll be around a long time’. Now, realistically, the lady is old and yeah, she is at a stage where people have to come to grips with the fact that we’re not going to live forever. If a counselor (alright, a beginning counselor but still) cant even deal with that, what chance do you have with the outside world? It’s ok to have thoughts. It is selfish for people to decide what thoughts you may or may not have and what thoughts you are allowed to express.

Also, I think it is incredibly selfish for someone to demand you stay alive just because they’re going to feel bad at your death. (This is not me advocating s*icide, just a right to your own life, we’ve had this discussion before, I am sorry you’re still struggling with this, and i hope you’re still in therapy).

i agree with mandyloo.

i toally agree w/ you=]

if you listen to the song Magicians Assistant by Dan le sac Vs Scrooobius Pip you will know why its seen as selfish. give it a listen

thanks ty, and im actually exiting therapy again because my therapist is quitting and i dont feel like making a transition right now and yeah its like how the heck can i get better if no one is willing to talk about it?

i said ideations

How hard is it to decide to be in a good mood, And then just be.. in.. a good mood? That’s all I have to say because it’s a straight up fact, You control your emotions it’s as simple as that

uhm wow. the ignorance. wow.

alright. so this is the impatient side of me. First off, your therapist is quitting? what does that mean? she’s quitting on you? i know depression tends to lead to self-centeredness (it’s ok, i’m still there), but I dont think your therapist is quitting on you. So, change of attitude here. And dont complain about not being able to get better if no one is willing to talk about it. Your best bet to talk about it is a therapist. Get over your relucatance to transition (yes, i despise changes too, and i’d probably have the same reaction if my therapist ‘quit’), but you know you need to go get a new therapist because it helps. If it didnt you’d have quit therapy a long time ago. So go get a new therapist. And look at it as a matter of odds. You got along well with one therapist, odds are you’ll like another one out of the millions out there. And yes, I know I’m being harsh. Now go out and get another therapist.

shes actually quitting practicing lol she gave up on me about 2 months ago weve just been doing sessions every other week. I live in a smaller town and its really difficult to find an actual good therapist that accepts insurance. If i do find a therapist it will be at least 6 months before i can do weekly sessions….fun

I personaly dont think its selfish.. because its your life you live it how u want too.. But it does hurt people but obvisly they are that upset they cant live with it anymore and thats sadder.