My boyfriend is really depressed right now. His parents are abusive and hurt only him,although he has other siblings. They say to his face that they hate him and wish he would just die already. They shove him against the wall and punch him repeatedly. They threaten to kill him if he tells anyone. I'm the only outsider that knows. I have seen his parents hurt him in horrible ways. They've even locked him in the basement. He refuses to eat,he cuts himself a lot,he hasn't been to school in a week because he's so embarrassed of his scars,he's been making himself sick. He has tried killing himself twice now...Ugh,I can't continue. Right now he's living with me. Well,technically. Let's put is as a long night over. His parents don't keep up with where he is. Anyway,I want,no NEED to make him feel a bit better. I hate seeing him in so much pain. How can I reassure him? Thank you so much.
I've been suicidal before, and the sad truth is that you just feel like there is no help, and you sometimes dont even want help, when I was in one of my down times I refused to eat, cried myself to sleep, and would cut myself often, the only thing that kept me from doing anything was that I knew someone would miss me when I was gone, unfortunately I dont have him anymore so Im doing my best to keep my head above water...so its a good thing he has you, tell him everyday how much he means to you, let him know that hes has you, and if you can bring it up in a calm happyish way tell him that you would really miss him when hes gone... you just have to be there for him, sometimes no words are the perfect ones, just being there makes all the difference in the world, sit with him and wrap your arms around him, or if hes the 'macho' type just let him hold you, trust me... and he'll come out of this, the trick is once he is out you need to keep him from slipping back in, because it can happen... and about the whole child services thing, they came to my house once, and it made my parents even more angry, so of course things only got worse... I would just tell your mom, she'll help you... good luck... when hes feeling a bit better tell him that theres always a reason to go on, even if you cant see one right now, you just have to believe that there is something more, trust that there is something more...
talk to him try and get him to tell someone and make sure he tells the police right after it happens to make him happy I would say change the subject when it pops up (after you talk to him real quick about it of course) kiss him and hug him when hes sad... try and be with him as much as possible while out side of school... keep his mind on good things like take him to ponds or somewhere he likes. GoodLuck, Luvs Sid
I think your first step should be to tell your parents, since they let him stay the night with you and such they seem pretty chill and stuff. maybe they can help out or work it out so he can permanently move in with you..
Call 911. Then call child protective services. They can get him out of that house and in with a relative if possible, or foster care...
you need to call child protect agency or social services
