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Should I call my dad?

My dad called me saying im coming to my cottage with him this weekend, but I dont want to so I told him that. He told me I have to because my mom told me I am.[separated parents] then he started to yell at me like he always does so I thought I hungup on him and I put the phone down on the table. I started talking to my friends who were with me saying I dont want to listen to him yell, and I dont want to go to my cottage because my grandmas so bossy and tries to shove food down my throat. [grandma= my dads mom] so then I heard my dad scream hello! Then I got the phone and hungup for real. Im scared that he heard what I said [my dad was abusive to me when I was 11 to 13 years of age], and if he did then I dont know what to do. Should I call him and wait for him to bring up what I said if he did hear it? Please help!!!

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Answer #1

I would call your Dad back.It is best to talk to him before the cottage. You are probably both frustrated. He should not have yelled at you and he needs to find a better way to communicate when he becomes frustrated.

You can draw your boundries with him with the way he treats you. For example, tell him you understand why he got frustrated but you would like him to recognize that you are almost an adult and would appreciate it if he could communicate with you in a manner other than yelling. He needs to respect you and that the reason you hung up is that you dont hear it when people start yelling since that is bullying.

I would talk to your mom about your concerns.

Answer #2

thanks everyone, and my mom knows that he used to beat me. I called him back and talked to him about it, but im stuck going to the cottage with him, I’ll just have to suck it up!

Answer #3

No sweetie don’t call him, let him call you. and if he’s abusive you don’t need to be around him period. tell your mother your guardian and get him some help quick! I hate that you go through this.

Answer #4

you should not have donte that knowing about your pass of getting abused by him. Of course he heard it. the only thing you could possibly do is call him back and apologize and sy the things you were saying was out of anger and you didnt mean it.[ even thought you did] but it would help save you. and just tell him again you really dont want to go out there with him.

Answer #5

You should treat your parents with respect, apologize and discuss things like an adult.

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