My dad left me and my mum for another woman years ago. I didn't mind because I was too young to remember and assumed that I would never see him anyway, because, well he never called or visited me in years. I was doing well without him, and it seemed that he was doing well without us too. Suddenly I get an unexpected visitor at the door. My dad. I am not making this up. He was as ignorant to think that he could come and see his daughter that he has ignored for years, and his reason for visiting make me feel physically sick. He was only visiting because his wife was filing for divorce and he didn't know where else to go. Yes, he is my dad and I let him stay, I was hardly just going to let him stay on the streets was I ? But only visiting me as a last resort was really hard to take. I will have to think of a conversation that the two of us could talk about, but what? What do you say to the dad you haven't seen in 4 years and thought had forgotten about you ?
Rite. He stayed for a couple days and I tryed to talk about my school stuff and not get into awkward conversations with him. He seemed nice enough but never really spoke or asked me the questions, I was the one doing the talking. Then one day last week I woke up and was going downstairs to get breakfast and my dad is usually sitting in the kitchen reading the paper or something but he wasn't there. My mum walks in and I ask where dad was. She said that he had left. He left without saying good-bye AGAIN...The first time my dad left I was too young to remember him anyway, but this time I will never forget. I was heartbroken, but I'll get over it soon, because he was scum, he IS scum. He is currently staying at one of his mates houses, but if he ever comes to our house again, well I will not be answering the door.
You said it right, he IS your dad. Yeah, he made some mistakes for sure, but he still came back. I don't think he ever really forgot about you, but rather he was trying to move on to something he thought was better, but really wasnt.
I wouldn't completely shun him out. Take it slow and talk with him, try to build back what you can of your relationship, and i think someone mentioned it, but ask him this same question, and see what kind of answer you get.
this is hard but honestly if my dad did that i wouldnt have let him u dont get it do you im here to help you honestly im 14 if my dad ever did that to me i would have kicked him out fromt the house cant you see it after four years he commes back to you just because he dosent have another place to go thats like hes using you and thats not cool if he actually did love you he wouldnt have done such a stupid thing he is just takin u as a back up plan
Do talk to him. Ask him the same questions you're asking us. Be honest about how you feel - after all this time you have nothing to lose and he may listen and realize how selfish he has been. What if you can make him change? Fathers are just people themselves, not superheros like we want to believe. They are just as flawed as anyone and make mistakes. Tell him what you think - and good luck.
hun i bet that is very hard for you but honestly i think you shouldn't talk to him for a while give him the silent treatmeant, he doesnt deserve u talking to you after 4 yrs and only coming for a place to stay, if anyone does the talking it should be him and he should be telling you he is sorry? keep in touch let me know how everything turns out, best of wishes <3
my dad buggered off over 15 years ago and i dont care 1 way or the other if he phoned or not. hes dead in my eyes for leaving my mom to bring up 3 boys on her own.
in the end its your choice if you want to give him another chance. personally i wouldnt.
your welcome anytime. feel free to ask me anything that is what i am here for ;) <3
okayy, thanks for that. =D x
so tell me what happend?
i told you