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im 13 and im pregnant what do I do and how do I tell my parents
well for everyone downing the girl for being pregnant.. she DID have sex and she IS pregnant.. so shes not asking for people to judge her, shes just scared and looking for some advice..
but anyway - im 20 and pregnant and I tried to avoid telling my parents by spending a lot of time away from them (im away at school and would just go to my boyfriends on the weekends instead of home - which was very odd for me).. anyway, she just came right out and asked me if I was and I couldnt lie to her so I just told her I was.. at first she was very upset (my dad was even more upset though).. but later she came to me and told me that they just dont want me to have to go through hardships they did but she would be there for me, my boyfriend, and the baby 100% and, now that there is nothing she can do about it, shes excited to find out if shes getting a new grandson or granddaughter!
I know how nervous I was to tell them (luckily she told my dad for me lol) but you HAVE to do it.. yeah, theyll scream, yell, get mad, say things they probably dont mean, but theyll come around.. youre their daughter and no parent wants to see their daughter hurting..
if parenting isnt for you, check out abortion clinics (if youre not too far along) or adoption agencies.. good luck with everything, hope it works out for the best!
I don't know your parents, but honestly, telling them is the best thing to do. They might be mad at first, but eventually they will realize that it's not going to change anything. And they are most likely going to be the ones to help you out . Just be mature about the whole situation. If or when they react badly, be calm, don't say anything that you might regret later. Let them know how your feeling and what your plans are after having your baby. And a little bit of advice, make sure you do read up on what to expect, you want to be knowledgeable. And go to all of your doctors appointments. You want to make sure your baby is healthy and that it stays that way. Read "What to expect when you're expecting." Not all at once though. Just read each chapter as you go along. It sounds corny, but it really helps! Good luck! I hope to hear how it all goes!
Do not run away!!! I was 15 when I had gotten pregnant with my son. I was so scared that my parents would disown me, but I was really surprised that they were there for me and helped me through everything. I ended up marrying my son's father and my son is now 7 years old and is everything to us. You will risk your health and your unborn babies health by running away. Tell your parents, they will probably be more understanding than you think. They have not noticed the weight you have gained? Have you seen a doctor yet? Depending on where you live, they have free medical care for you and the baby. Please write back and update your situation. I will look up some information on here for you, if you'd like me to. But I was young, I have been there, so I know what you are going through and I know that it is very scary. Lots of Love, Lexy
I understand how you are pobably scared to tell your parents because you think they will judge you but they will come around because you are their daughter. If you dont feel comfortable talking to your parents then tell a trusted adult or maybe and aunt or uncle. I personally don't believe in abortion but if you are comfortable with that by all means go ahead. I would more likely go with adoption. You might want to consider open adoption. You go through the process of having the baby and when the baby is born, you can still see the baby and the parents would probably update you on the baby's life. Also, tell your boyfriend!!
I hope this helps and if you ever need someone to talk to, fun mail me
Hannah
Not an easy task... But it is the right thing... to own up to being pregnant. They well yell, scream, and most likly cry... you are their baby! They are going to be scared for you, they know what it takes to raise a child. Please consider adoption for your little one if you can't keep it your self. There are so many wonderful people out there that can't have kids, but have a desire to raise some. Give your baby the best possiable life that you can... a sacrifice, yes... but if you love your baby, don't abort him or her, find him or her a family to love and support them as much or more than you would of if you were able to. My prayers are with you! I know you will make the right choice.
I am adopted coz my birthmother had me at 13 to and don't have an abortion but my birthmother told me that things happen so write a letter to them and mabye organise to stay with some1 ur close to but if your parents will keep your baby till your 18 do that or give it to some1 ur close to. I wish my mum did that for me because now i have to live a life with a family that love me and a family that never got to meet me. I miss my mum and it was really hard to find out the news wen i was 11. Think about the baby's life.
U got to tell ur folks baby girl, ain't no way around it, AND DON'T RUN AWAY, that'll just make things worse. Forgive me for asking this but wat are ur views on abortion I think ur way too young to have a baby and u still have ur whole life ahead, so please make the right decisions beginning with (a) Telling ur parents that ur pregnant (b) Thinking about ur and the baby's well being, PLEASE In the future always use protection
well i think first you should tell the baby's father and talk to him about about see if he wonts to talk to your parents with you and gor from there. dont think about aborting the baby cause to me that is the same thing as murder cause after all it is a human life and if you dont keep it or your parents dont think of adoption but you do need to tell your parents cause you cant hide it for every like melissa515 said if you tell your mom your if your lucky she'll tell your dad!!
tell you mom and hope she is not mad
but dont just go at any random moment and say
HEY MOM GUESS WHAT
IM PREGNANT
no
sit down and start off slow say things like
HOW OLD WERE YOU WHEN YOU HAD ME
and then at the right time say MOM, I HAVE TO TELL YOU SOMETHING BUT PLEASE DONT GET UPSET
act and sound mature, crying is okay tho at a time like that
just say it with eaz stay calm and tell her
GOOD LUCK
selena
Well, what are your views on abortion? If you're against it, PLEASE give the baby up for adoption. Do not keep it whatever you do. You are not ready to handle a baby no matter how much you think you are. Try talking to your mom first, she will be much more understanding than your dad. She will freak at first, but she only wants to help you. Just be sure you tell her SOON before it gets any later!
I feel you girl.. I think im pregnant and it was only my 1st time. my parents are going to kill me if I am and once I tell them. but I wish the best for u.KEEP THE BABY god has plans for it like he has plans for you and me. maybe this is just a hidden blessing. but I need help on telling my best friend.. can someone help me.. im so scared
I am also 13 and pregnant. A liitle over a month. I am so afraid to tell my parents. I planned on telling my mom first and just letting her tell my dad. She will be more understanding than him because she got pregnant with my brother at 14. I just want you to know that you're not alone.
Tell your parents ASAP and don't run away! You cannot run away from your problems. Give the baby up for adoption to someone who can take care of it. You are really young and you have your whole life ahead of you. If you need to talk email me bbygirl12187@aol.com.
WELL WHAT I DID WAS I STAYED WITH MY SISTERS AND I DIDNT TELL ANYBODY EXCEPT ONE OF MY SISTERS THAT I WA PEGNANT UNTIL I WAS ALMOST 8 MONTHS AND THEN I WENT BACK TO MY MOMS AND I WAS HUGE THATS ONE WAY TO DROP A HINT...
tell ur mom first and if your luky she'll tell ur dad. u are too young to have a baby but its your choice no1 elses... im 15 and pregnant and idk how im goin to tell my parents. well good luk
You know what, disregard that last comment, you should tell your parents as soon as possible, so you can begin to decide on the rest of your life, good luck
do not give the baby up for abortion! And if you think you should keep it, talk to your parents about it and see if they would help.
wow im am almost thirteen but it will just get worse if u keep it a secret but give the baby u know who couldtake good care of it
yer i wanna run away but dnt av no1 too run away wiv. You gotta av a fink bout wot ya gunna do. x
my friends sister is also thirteen and preggers. but tell your parents im sure they`ll understand
did you tell your parents?
do not have aborted
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