I got a 2 year old son at home and ever since he was born he got very bad colic and we changed his milk so much to find the right one that would help him to keep his food down, ever since that he was not a good eater but the last few months he has got worse he has not put an weight on in the last 6 months, he is still in 12-18 mnts clothes since last summer and we dread when it comes to dinner time as he takes a couple of bites of dinner and then leaves it all he wants is drinks, sweets, biscuits and chocolate but he dont get that much off us maybe only a couple of chocky biscuites a day its my fiances parents that give him all the sweets he wants even when we tell them not to and they even give him tea and coffee from there cups to drink every time he is with them when he comes home they say he got nothing but the smell of chocolate off his breath is rotten he is on a tonic at the moment is there anything that we can do to get him to eat he is back up to the health clinic again shortly for his 2 year checkup and we are worried that he will be the same since we were up there last time 6 mnts ago but the thing is that he is so full of life there is no stoping him we dont know where he gets his energy from he tires us out he goes so much and sorry for going on so much just needed to tell all the facts.
You really need to cut out the sweets, and especially the coffee and tea - if your in-laws won't adhere to your rules, then you'll have to forbid them from seeing your son unsupervised. Remember, this is your child and if you don't protect him, child welfare will, and you don't want that.
A child that age will not starve himself, but he does know that if he holds out long enough, you'll give him something he wants. If you completely cut out the bad foods, all he'll have is good foods.
You can try making it fun for him, too...My son was a picky eater, so I used to make sandwiches look like little boats, or I would mash potatoes with a little food colouring to give him rainbow potatoes.
Whatever you do, don't let your in-laws make your life difficult.
Have you mentioned these issues with your pediatrician? Is he still having trouble keeping food down?
My two kids had the same problem but for completely different reasons. My daughter had reflux. My son had food allergies. (Milk and eggs).
Both children had touble gaining weight and keeping food down untli I got the right medicine for my daughter / and I kept all milk and eggs out of my Son's diet.
Hope this Helps!
Your Dr will be able to give you the best advice but those aren't healthy eating habits...I wish you the best !!