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My dad still wants to run my life !!

Ok so I turned 16 in april and I have left school , my dad is constantly on my case about all sorts so I find it hard telling him stuff . I dont have my mum to turn to as we havnt seen her since I was like 4 . Today my dad found out that I have been talking to my long lost sister that we did already get back intouch with , but she lost touch after 2 months of reproducing a realationship with her - she is 20, anyway my dad feels like I have betrayed him but he wont let me , make him understand!! Please anyone out there got any advice !! Thanks xx in addition my dad only found out because he looked at my messages on facebook - after telling me he was going to check up on me !! Its not fair this is it ??

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Answer #1

I’m going to assume that your mom took off when you were young. Stuff like this makes it hard on parents especially when there is a child involved. She’s gone, he’s stuck raising you alone, can he trust anyone? It often ends up a jumble in ones head, and the first thing they are going to be is protective of what they have left. I don’t think he feels betrayed, so much as possibly hurt that you didn’t tell him in the first place that you were talking to your sister again. So that could be a reason for the over reaction. I don’t think he is trying to be mean. I think that he is trying to protect what he has. What if you decided to leave and go live with your sister? Your only 16 and I’m sure he would hate to lose you like that. The best thing to do is wait for him to cool down, and then talk to him calmly about what is going on. You might find some issues there that neither of you tought or even cared to discuss before.

Answer #2

aww thanks I think you may help me , I didnt quit I have left school because im 16 and thats the law lol xx

Answer #3

I’m not sure what your relationship is with your step-mom, but if you are unsure about talking to your dad about this things you can asking her to talk to him on your behalf. However, I;m sure he would appreciate more coming from you personally. No matter how scary parents can get. They will alwasy love you no matter what, and will always want the best for you.

Just one other thing, you said you left school. I figure you mean that you quit? I know that school is a pain in the rear-end. But you need to consider your future when it comes to decisions like that. I never liked school, but employers don’t take people into any consideration unless they completed school. So just a thought on it. You should finish, no matter how much it sucks.

Answer #4

yep my mum did take off - but I have s step -mum he known that I miss my mum and I was so happy that my sister got intouch !! its hard for me aswell , I know he is hurt I hated lying to him , but he would be reallymad anyway!!

Answer #5

You’re a minor - it’s his job as a good, loving parent to look after your best interests - be Thankful - many, many have parents that don’t care.

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