How do you get out of a massive lie without telling the truth?

*luck lol

You dont. If you honestly care about this person you tell them the truth. I would much rather a close friend come to me and admit they made a mistake and told me a lie, rather then them making up more lies and me finding out in the end. You have a better chance of bein honest. Sit her down and explain to her that you feel you have problem and that you have told her a lie and want to make things right. You cant do anything about how she reacts, all you can do is be honest and be apologetic and just speak from your heart.

You tell the truth. Why have you been laying? Try to explain why.

The best things don’t come easy and honesty is on the same list of best things ;)

Seriously? You’re trying to get out of the situation by doing exactly what you were doing previously? If you’re really getting help (you realize this isnt actually technically a disorder), then you should know that you need to stop doing what you were doing. Lets pretend instead of lying it’s compulsive gamb.ling or shoplifting. How exactly does it help if you continue to gamble or shoplift in order to fix whatever trouble you got into by gam.bling or stealing? No, it really isnt any different. You’re causing just as much damage to yourself and those around you. So time to quit. And if it is someone who has a hard time trusting others, then they’re going to deal a lot better with the truth than some lie which will unravel at some point (how do you know it will unravel at some point, because that’s what has happened so far, eventually your life unravels when you continue in self destructive behaviors). Oh and you do realize that part of the issue here is that you have problems with your self worth and believing others will accept you, which is why you started lying in the first place. Which is why you have a hard time believing this girl will deal with you having problems if you just tell her the truth. Meaning, you really need to discuss this further with whomever you’re getting help from. And if you’re not, you need to go get help. Seriously, adults who are compulsive liars have a really hard time functioning, because it isnt as acceptable as it is when you’re under 18.