Married but feeling desire for someone else - emotional affair

Talk to him..tell him what you need and that he needs to work on this too.. Otherwise it’s going to ruin your marriage.. Communication needs to be happening on both ends Him and you! If you dont have that? how can you ever get anywhere?

Before you do anything, ask yourself this:

Is it worth throwing away your marriage to satisfy your sexual urges?

I think the better option is to first discuss the situation with your husband. Tell him how you feel. Be open and honest. An affair won't solve anything.

It sounds like your husband experiences some kind of sexual dysfunction. I would suggest you take him to a doctor and perhaps this could be resolved that way.

I wish you the best!

I am 35 and have been married for 13 years. My wife thinks that sex once a month is a great sex life. I have thought about cheating many times but it all boils down to the fact that I love her and my kids way to much to put them before my sexual needs. Does your husband exercise at all? That is the best thing for sexual dysfunction and sex drive. Get him out running, playing racket ball or to the skate park 5 times a week and his drive and unit will go up. Also take the drivers set when you have sex. If you were to take charge of the foreplay and intercourse I bet he would totally follow.

Just talking about the “sexual dysfunction” side of things. As a man, I find that the less I’m turned on by my partner the easier it is to last and if I’m really really enjoying her, thinking how lucky I am, she’s the most beautiful creature etc.. it becomes utterly impossible for me to last. It seems to me that the highly sought after skill of “control” in a man is at the opposite end of the spectrum as passion.

A man can improve, gain experience and techniques but as far I can tell “experience” means losing his sex drive and “techniques” most often means thinking about anything apart from how much he loves and enjoys his partner. If he really CAN’T last I’d tentatively take that as confirmation of how beautiful he (agreeing with all those others) thinks you are.

As for the going soft bit, that too is natural (after climax). Some may be able to go a few more times without a break but if not he’s just a normal man and women should really stop belittling men for the way our bodies are designed to be. It wouldn’t be fair for us to insist that women should be satisfied in 5 minutes because we know that on the whole it isn’t natural for them. Men should do their very best if they care for their partner but their women should never assume that the unnatural is possible or right.

U have a man that loves and espects u. Don't leave him jus because he has this problem for a fling wit someone who isnt as comitted. Its like throwing away a dollar for a penny bcuz the dollar had a little tear. Help him with it. Look for ways to make him want sex more. Get him some of those new pills out lol that increase sex drive. Watch erotic videos together. Go to dinner romance him if u want him. This is the father of ur kids and the man u love. Love him.

I am looking for someone very special. Someone lovely.

Have you thought of having someone join you, like 3sum or something…

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My wife has been a cheat. We have been married for 22 years. In the last few years we have been having problems because i never knew she was cheating on me till a friend of mine saw her with the guy in a hotel. She has been rude to me and everything about her has changed all because of a guy whom i dont know. Just early this year she was calling for a divorce accusing me of assault. Then she called and told them I beat her with a belt. Thank God I met this spell lady ‘’priestess Ifaa” who a friend introduced to me. It was so pain that my family is tearing apart. I would even go to jail but this spell lady consulted the spirits and told me that the guy place a spell on her for her to distroy me and marry him. This hurt me so much and i asked the spell lady to make the spell reverse. I did everything to make sure the spell was done and on few days later the spell started manifesting because we were back together and we were happy just like the day we got married the reverse spell this spell lady did made the guy go far and never come close because he is a demon. She could not work or support herself that’s why she was acting that way. This spell lady is great, she has rescued my family. i met the spell lady though her email ID priestessifaa@yahoo.com. meet her and get your solved.