Every so often my dad for one reason or another he will the most kind dad in the world to a dad who is saying im a slut, whore, bitch, prostitute ect... just because HE lost the tv remote or somthing as small as that, e.g one time not that long ago I was in my mum and dads room watching tv I finished watching the tv and put the remote on the bed where I found it. After I left my mum went into her room to change the covers she did that and left, When my dad went in their room later on that night he couldm not find it and being the last to use it he blamed me and I told him I left it on the bed and he said a was a lier I helped them look for it and he was getting more anoyed every miniute we found it in the quilte cover about 20mins later and my mum said it was her fault so I asked for a apolgy but he said he would not say it and I asked why he said I WAS A LIER I said but I want one you said I lost it and I did not mum lost it. I know not a very good excuse for the next bit but I am 14
My dad said I did not deserve a apolgy because a always lie (over egsaduration) we went on in circles of how I dont always lie and I was not that time while he replied on about 10 occations when I did lie but using them all over and over again until he said I am a lier and will always be one and I remember when I was aboul 12 him making me repete IM A LIER, A CHEAT, AND A THEIF from about 6pm to 1am over and over again and if I shoped he hot his belt out and I shouted are you going to make me repete im a lier a cheat and a theif again and he said he will try and I told him I would never do that again and he started calling me a slut bitch whore and almost every thing else in that catagory of fowl words my mum was there and did not do anything about it. I said somthing like if thats what I am what are u he moved a hit me a few times. that was one of the first times he did it. I remember when he did it to my older bro until he hit him and cracked his nose then he started on me at first it was not that bad and its getting worse but is happening less often and be having one of those days text my mum after my dad said somthing to me. I had forgotten about it and was a bit narked now my mum is anoyed with my dad and my dad is very anoyed with me and im scared that the will do somthing now I know I should stick up for my self and I am now almost 16 but im not as strong as my older bro was and my dad is HUGH I know its rude to say but he is very fat so he has a lot of weight it hit me with. I need some advise on what to do and where to go but im woried if I go he will start on my younger bro im so sick of my life and I am so sorry for saying all this but I need to get it out some where
ok. can I just clarify that your mum doesn't really get involved? is your mum scared of your dad? or is your dad scared of your mum?
you need to speak to someone who can offer some real suuport and guidance, someone who can actually intervene. I don't think you need telling that your dad in this instance was completely out of order, and his behaviour was hardly one of a good example...
you need to pull your mum aside and talk to her. your dad is violent, he has been violent to you and your brothers...there is a huge difference between a slap on the bum when your 5 and a cracked nose when your older...
I am very serious, if you are concerned about your safety and that ofyour brothers, you need to speak to someone official, school teacher..your doctor - someone! your dad has clearly lost control over his temper and problems with this is that they generally don't get better, they get worse, more so if the person isn't prepared to recognise they have a problem...
no matter what, your mum as out of order letting your dad talk to you like that. I can't even begine to go on about the long term self-esteem problems...but you know this isn't right..your mum must to, why won't she say anything to him? there's no point in just havign a mood with him, some serious action needs to be taken...
you dad is behaving very cruelly, both physically and mentally towards you...you should not have to put up with it.
I know you could find somewhere else to go, but that's not going to help your bro is it? and he shouldn't be your responsibility, but he is, because you care... if I were you I'd talk to child line (I am sure if your not UK you must have an equivalant) child line is a free service and they will give you all the support you need, moreover they will be able to action something for you and your brother...
but please, talk to your mum first, don't mention seeking 3rd party help, that will only make your parents defensive...and they may not let you go out on your own if they think you will ring other people...but you need to speak to her and find out what's going on in her head when your dad's like this...
and someone who can be abusive is often like jekyll and hyde...it works on the theory that you put up with all the bad, for that wonderful little bit of good. but your getting older, andyour not being fooled by the 'good' anymore...x x
OMG I'm soo srry fer you =( thats a terrible thing tew have tew live and deal with daily...whyy doesnt your mom interfere? Thats not right he shuddnt b calling you those things or hitting you or your older bro tew the point where his nose cracks!!! Thats sick!! O mii gosh! Umm have you tljed tew your mom about it? Is she gunna leave hym? Maybee if its really that bad and no ones doin anythin about it then maybee tlk tew another family member or a school counselor and if its VERY bad tew a point that your scared fer your life then go tew the police..but that shudd b the last resort soo maybee just try tlkin tew your mom tell her your sick of the crap and tell her how you fell because he shudd not b treating you like that!! Good Luck with ery thin if you need sumone tew tlk tew imma good lisner even tho imma stranger L0L :) Good Luck with erythin and I hope all goes well ...
call dyfs or other child protection agency at the least your father has serious anger control issues and may be mentally ill, at worst he may be slipping into true insanity and the sexual connotation of what he's calling you indicate he may even be sexually fixated on you (which if he is unstabe could lead to sexual abuse instead of just verbal abuse and physical abuse) without knowing your situation I can't be sure but your mother sounds as though she's been abused by him as she didn't even respond when he began these activities, but even if I'm overreacting and he was just having a really bad day, your dad needs counciling at a bare minimum
try just talking to him calmly and being nice to him by helping him with things or fetching his remote or something he needs and have a word with your mum, then sit down and talk calmly and maybe suggest counciling. if counciling doesnt work the call childline because what he is doing is just plain wrong. move out maybe with anouther relitive. call the police next time he hits you and verbally abuses you because you could get him locked up for it and yeah, you may think that you want to live with him and get along but his time inside may do him good and you could always visit him so bare that in mind. I hope this was helpful.
I know exactly what your going through... except my mum hit me I dont know my dada and my sister stands there and watches it happen. I found myself dodging my mum playing a lot of sport and stuff to get my mind off things. your dad dones not sound very nice to me. you could try sticking up for yourself but as you said he is a lot bigger and stronger than you are think about your options. try and talk to another adult like a friends mum or dad... a teacher at school... a family member that way... they can do the best for you... seeking help is one of the best ways t cope with this. dont stick it out alone ok.
Maybe your dad has bipolar disorder. Sounds like some of the classic symptoms to me. Read more on bipolar disorder here please:
Maybe your mom does not even realize this, and both of you have been trying to cope without understanding what's going on. Educate yourselves, and then try to educate your dad when he is in the down state so he can go get some help.
Its treatable, and when the person realizes what's going on, they can probably better be able to control, or at least shorten the eposides.
I Feel your pain my Fiancee is the exact same way, what I do is PRAY it helps me a lot because always after his tantrum he always apologizes. but I know it hurts vey much. maybe they do need help but my fiancee doesnt want the drugs that they will prescribe. May be there is other alternatives out there GOOD LUCK and I'll be praying for you to get through this :) DON'T LET HIS HURTFUL WORDS GET YOU DOWN.
You all need counselling.Your daddy might be having his own stress or dissapointments and he takes it out on you.I am very sorry but since you are the one who is in a sober mind please give him the respect he deserves and avoid argung with him.Parenting is a tough job and at times parents are so pressured that they do things which are ubnormal.
Have you ever thought of moving with another family member.
you could talk to your mum about it. cause a mother always wants there kids to be happy.
Could your Dad be a closet alcoholic? Or maybe just a control freak? Either way find a way to get out.
Sounds like my parents. I just turned my back on them. And have made their life HELL
you live in an abusive home, try and get out of it as soon as you possibly can