How can I not hate my dad when he was kind of abusive years ago???

Give yourself time to heal…it’s not just a matter of “not forgiving”, it’s a matter of “trust building”…and he broke the trust between child and parent.

Resenting him for the rest of your life will hurt you more than it will hurt him…maybe you need some counseling, too, to help you get past this?

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he hurt you pretty bad, it’s normal to have harsh feelings towards him.. but think of this, he got help, he wanted to be better, and he wanted to make your experience as a daughter better too. you gotta give him credit for trying. it’s going to take some time to get over the scars and memories he left, but forgiveness always takes time. so just gradually accept him.. dont’ force yourself because then the feelings will be fake. he’s your dad, and your his daughter..just try to get to know his good side, and try to forget the bad side..

hi my name is maggie. my father was a alcholhalic. I hated him for a while to , I would have to say that it is best to not forgive hime rite away. show him how much he hurt you. make him gain your trust back so you dont find him to hurt you more. just dont get your hopes up that he has changed rite away. be very careful

you should never hate anyone..and god says to always forgive since hes gottten help you should try to forget what happened on the past and think about your futurre

From what you wrote you seem very confused. My advice is do what your heart tells you. If you feel that hating your father will help you more then loving him then no one can deny you the right to do so. Give it time and clear your head then think it through carefully.