How do I tell a teacher that I get really nervous bout sitting next to people or having to work in groups..I have a total social anxiety type problem...at school I hang out on my own because I just dont like being round people...I mean I have few friends and in the classes they are in I dont mind sitting with them bu it other classes they are not it I like to sit on my own..
I was seeing counceller a few months ago and I told her and she was going to get my guidance teacher to write a letter to my teachers about it so that I got to choose where to sit and that I could get out of class if it got to much for me..but I said I didnt want that because I didnt want to seem to stupid and singled out..
Being socially awkward isn't new and it's something almost everyone has experienced at one time or another. . .to varying degrees. The question is, what is it that bothers you in classes? Is this something that happens in other situations like going to the movies or shopping?
I think that people need to hear that it's ok if you don't feel like socializing every minute of every hour of every day. Sometimes you really need to pay attention to the teacher and to have people passing notes all around you, throwing their hair all over your desk and whatever other fun things are associated with sitting in a desk for 8 hours a day can be overwhelming.
There is nothing wrong with telling your teachers that you aren't comfortable with where you sit in the room and at least asking them if they will let you sit elsewhere because it's more comfortable for you. Teachers almost always want to help you in any way that they can and as long as your request is *reasonable* they won't single you out because there's no need to.
I would start thinking about what in the situation really bothers you. . .what makes you upset? Low self-esteem I imagine comes from how others may treat you and there's nothing wrong with not wanting to be near people who are openly hostile towards you.
let me apologize in advance...
you should say positive things, and not complain about your problems, right now you are making a mountain out of a mole hill. I am SHY thats what its called! SHY. stop, a lot of people are shy, I get anxious when I am somewhere where I know nobody and you don't see me putting these kind of questions up...
also, you have to learn this kinda shittt from expierence not from people on a website :]
I'm currently going through a mini life crisis which I do not care to explain so forgive the outspoken rudeness. I'm venting :/
isnt there anyone else in the school you can tell that will tell the teacher for you?
if there is anyone else that you ca talk to, then talk to them about your problems and then if they help you feel confident to tell yout teacher then you will be fine
but if not like I said tell someone else to tell your teacher for you or get someone else that you have spoke to about it to help you like go with you to tell her
But what if shes like well I cant single you out..like she migh be all like what makes yo so special or whatevr...cus I dont mean it to be like that..I just really low self-confidence and all that..
and heyjay2..wow what help you are..not..even if I am..I didnt ask for your oppinion on what I am and what im not..I asked for what I should say to solve my problem..
If you want my opinion, avoiding things is simply reinforcing it, and is going to make your problem worse... the solution is not to avoid working in groups... I know it sucks, but you really should consider talking to a therapist... you cant avoid being around people forever, what are you going to do when you get older and need a job?
Here's the best piece of advice about getting through high school that I ever got. . .strangely I got it during my last class ever in high school.
High School is not life and Life is NOT high school.
Somehow, that should make sense to you in your own way.
just tell your teacher you want to work alone