How do I tell my perants that I am getting married and moving away?

Well on valentines day my boyfriend of 3 month asked me to marrie him, the bad thing is he lives in america and I in australia. I am only 15 I will be 16 soon, he is 19 and will be 20 next year, we are going to wait untill I am 19 to get married but untill then I want to go live with him. My mum and dad dont know I have a boyfriend and I dont know how to tell them

Answer #1

Its really importain that you relize what your dealing with. This man is 19, and your so young. Really think about what you are doing, have you ever acually met this person? I don’t think you should think about getting married at this age, but you may do as you please. Just really thinkg about what your doing, and I highly doubt that your parents will let you leave. But Good luck.

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Answer #2

excuse me for being so upfront…

hello, hello anyone home?

you met this person on the net 3 months ago and now they asked you to marry them?

wow… can really see your only a child by that alone…

reality check!

your 15 and hes 19 which puts him in teh sex offenders category…

have you seen pics of this person and are you 100% sure that the picture is actually them? you could be talking to a member of a pedophile ring and they are doing everything they can so you fall in love with them so they can get you over to their country and murder you in a horrible way..

love isnt commited after 3 months, more like 3 years: how can you even contemplate marrige with someone youve never met?

you dont have a boyfriend and you are not somebodys fiance so you dont need to tell your parents jack…

bloody hell!

Answer #3

Well, 16 is the legal age to leave home in Australia, so at least you don’t have to worry about any legal bindings.

Now, here’s the thing…

You’re about to leave home and embark upon an adult adventure by moving in with a man and setting up a home with him in another country…if you’re not adult enough to approach your parents with this, then maybe you’re not ready.

Have you considered all possibilities? What will you do if the relationship doesn’t work out? What if he turns out to be abusive? Now you’re stuck in a foreign country with no money, probably no job, and because you’re only 16 and an Australian, you can’t apply for housing or get welfare in the States.

I hate to be the one to lay down the law here, but what you’re suggesting is a huge deal…you need to ensure that if you go, you’ll have an escape plan if you should need it - that’s where your parents come in.

You’re going to have to make sure you deal with this in a manner that will secure your parents support and help if things go wrong.

You want to be an adult…talk to them…like an adult.

Answer #4

Well, all I can say is that you will be making a very big mistake, and you know, you could end up getting hurt. You have never met this guy, you don’t know what he is really like. He could be dangerous, so even if you do go to meet him, be careful. But I think that you are making a BIG mistake.

Answer #5

and no he has not asked me for a stuped naked pic he isnt that kind of guy…

Answer #6

this is just retarted..im sure your relationship wont last..for one your 15 and most relationships dont last..and two you have never even met this person.

Answer #7

so wait. You havn’t even told your parents you have a boyfriend, but your about to say I am engaged, and moving to live my with my fiance, who is 19 and who I have never met before, in america Thats going to be a barrel of laughs…

Answer #8

Although, the whole marrying him after 3 months thing is still pretty ridiculous, with that you must agree.

Without a doubt.

Answer #9

we’ll have to wait and see if hes asked for naked pics of her wont we…

which of course now she’d say no even if he had because of the topic :p

Answer #10

Fair enough. I didn’t know that. Although, the whole marrying him after 3 months thing is still pretty ridiculous, with that you must agree.

Answer #11

Because she is Australian, it would be on grounds of her own country’s laws…therefore…not a sex offender.

It would be her parents who would have to apply for the statutory rape charge, and if she’s of legal age in her country of origin, then that makes her legal age in the US.

Answer #12

Still, if she is planning on moving to America then… again… sex offender.

Answer #13

Ok people, let me point something out here because everyone seems to be pretty focused on the whole sex offender bit…

They have not had a sexual relationship - therefore, not a sex offender.

By the time they are planning on having an intimate encounter, she will be 16, which by her own country’s laws is the legal age, so again - not a sex offender.

Answer #14

You are such an idiot. First of all, you are 15 and he is 19… sex offender! It is illegal! You have only known him for 3 months. I mean come on!!! Use your brain! You are only 15, how can you be committed to someone after only knowing them for 3 months. Please tell me that you are joking. Please.

Answer #15

This is what im doing… im going to fly over there once im 17, im going over there with my bestfriend who is a guy… I will stay with him for about 2 weeks to see if he is really what he says he is then I will come back tell my perants ect. ect

I have talked to him on the phone I have seen him on web cam I have talked to some of his ex girlfriend who are still his friends.

Answer #16

So many things wrong with that pharagraph.

First, you met him online, and after just 3 moths of nowing eachother you will merry him? Do you even know what that means?

Know I know 16 is the legal age but if your making a mistake like this you are so not an adult in the head. And your going to go live with him in another country?

I guess you could when you turn 16 you can legally move out and your perents have no control over you. Your life your ditions I guess. Just wait and when you turn 16 let them know you have a boyfriend and all that stuff your planning.

GOOD LUCK:)

Answer #17

You haven’t met him in real life…only an internet “interest”…Interested for a lousy 3 months, no less! Did he buy the ticket that will get you to America?? Or does he expect that to come from you?

How about inviting him to Australia to meet you and your parents?? Him buying his OWN ticket of course…and get to know each other face to face?? Let’s see if he’s as good in person as he is when he’s behind a keyboard.

grannie phrannie

Answer #18

Sweetie… Ugh I know what its like to be in love. But you have to think here you havent even meet him. Also its only been 3months! Plzzz dontt do this to urself. This cant be real. you cant leave the country 4 him. Dont do this just plzzz dont. Its not safe at all… find someone real at your school or something… plzzz… im begging u…

Xoxo luv ya, plzzz watch out with internet, people

Answer #19

Okay well as i see your probably 16 already because this was posted 9 months ago

If your still with tis guys let me tell you i had an internet relationship too and right now im married to him happily married …. The problem is our situation was different i knew my husband trough the internet 2 years before we even met OR think about getting married …. When i first saw him come out of the gate from the airport was the most wonderful eeling you can possibly feel i was 15 when i met him in person but i was 2 days away from turning sixteen and he ofcourse was 17 two months away from being 18. The only problem i see in your relationship right now is that you probablly dont have the “guts” to go tell your parents that you love him and your gonna meet him and trust me its hard. Like another person said your mom might think its a “barrel of laughs” and its true ive been there but i insisted to her that he loved me and that i loved him and i didnt care what she thought because she doesnt feel what you are feeling right? But anyways like i said the only prob i see in this relationship is that you are not an american citizen and this can bring alot of troubke to you because you might be at legal age in australia but unfortunately not in the us and im sure the us is more strict because here if your with someone that is 4 years or older than you it is considered illegal no matter how old he or she is. Plus theres an option where he can marryyou and make you us citizen the only problem is that your parents have to approve of it because in all 50 states with the exception of two you have to be 18 years or older without any parental consent. Another thing is hiw are you gonna work while your in the us ? Without a permit … Whatabout your schoool your gonna drop? Because here if your 16 and not going to school is kind of illegal. Second how aree you planing to do all yopur oaper work . Thats the only problem you would really be facing. Because i dont think the guy is a problem im sure you trust him and only YOU know how he is . Im sure hes a good guy . Okay so for example my husband till this day is still not been able to work here in the us because he accually came to meet me. I married him and did evey paper work and were h oping migration can give us info to help us out . Something i gotta tell you and you have to. Know is that its not only about meeting him theres alot more to it you might look at it as if everything is real easy but its really not. Theres alot more to a realationship than just love …… You guys might experience going trough financial and economic issues of course because of the lack of money specially scince you wont be able to work and hes gonna have to carer for you like if you were his daughter ……. I know because im going trough that and its not easy. Look im 16 right now my husband is 19 but this kind of things make you grow up and mature and ive gone so far from being a lil girl to mature in a matter of like a year…….. I think you should think about it cuz your hearing it from a girl your same age think about it and your parents shouldnt intimidate you into telling them what you really feel they will just have to accept the fact that thats reality

Answer #20

Ohh and by the way i messed uo i wasent 15 when i first met him i was 14 yearls old 2 days away from 15

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