im grounded for at least 6mths. no, i know im not running away because im grounded. im running away because im sick of my family, theres too much yelling, things may be considered abuse but not quite, i have no privacy, no friends, what friends i do have im not allowed to see. i just got through being told that a person i put every ounce of my trust and love into, who (yes, i know, dont say it) is 20. im only 13. but that person ended up apparently 'victemizing' me and he is apparently a 'sexual predator' and hes not allowed to be anywhere near me by law. he cant go to church anymore, the church just rejected him. now i feel super guilty, all the time i think about cutting myself or running away but never done any of it. ive held a knife to my wrist before, but never cut it. ive packed my bags before, but never left. i want to so badly, i have nobody to talk to about this. the only people who know i might go is my friend who's 16, my 18 year old sister, and my crush/bestfriend who is also 13. but i need advice. help?
First, running away is really a bad idea, mostly because it's so dangerous. At 13 you have no way of taking care of yourself or making money except illegally (stealing, prostitution, etc). Runaways almost always become victims in the worst way. I remember when I was 13 I reeeeally wanted to get away and be on my own. I wanted to be independent ... I had fantasies of living in a tent. And I even had a good family who loved me and took care of me. Finally, having parents who punish you for having a boyfriend seven years older than you ... well, you should be happy you have them. In spite of how terrible it is to be with them, I'm guessing they love you and care about you more than anyone else in the world. And they always will. Trust them and love them. Being 13 sucks. We all suffer through it. It will get better.
running away is not going help at all, anything could happen to you!! And being grounded isn't the end of the world. And self harming is not the answer either, trust me i no from experience, yeah it might get your anger out and make you feel better somehow but then your going to be covered in scares for the rest of your life or you could even end your life if you do it in a dangerous place. if you want someone to talk to, maybe you could go see a councilor, your only 13, and you've got rest of your life to live. this is just an obstacle in live and we all have tough times, but we get through them. in my opinion talk to a close friend or your sister, it'll really help to get all your emotions out in the open :)
Most runaways get in trouble with the law, so it's kind of a stupid idea, you really just gotta deal with it. I understand what you mean though, but if you go off to anyones house they could get in a lot of trouble for you being there & you could get in trouble for running away, house arrest/juvi/fines. Your honestly better off just listening to your parents, even if you don't like it, their older than you & have more senority. Just put up with it, good luck.
Don't run away, its a stupid thing to do, there is no telling what could happen to you out there in this real world. Some people might kill you, or hold you for ransom or something, or chances are you find your way into drugs and become something even worse, I sAY TALK OUT YOUR PROBLEM WITH A FRIEND OR A FAMILY MEMBER FIRST.
You'll get snatched up by a pimp, use your gullible mind to controll you, and force you into prostitution, get beat up daily, and in the end you'll either die by HIV or your pimp, that's very big here in Houston, almost every girl ends up dead reminicing of how much better their life at home really was.