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how do you deal with the grief of loosing your dad??
my father has cystic fibrosis and he is very quickly deteriarting, I cant stand the thought of loosing him! how has everyone else coped with it?
I lost my dad last year. in your simular situation, we knew he didnt have much time but for some reason it didnt register in my head as it should have. I acted as though there was nothing wrong because I couldnt stand the thought of losing him. I slowly drifted myself away from him because I thought towards the end that if I pulled myself away, it wouldnt hurt as much when he is gone... I live now with that regret and will live with it every day for the rest of my life. if I could go back in time I would spend every second I could with him doing little things like hugging him, laying with him, putting my head on his shoulders, kissing him, telling him how much I love him, and letting him know that dispite him being sick all those years he still managed to be the best father a girl could ask for... so please, learn from my mistakes and do not take him for granted. when he passes there will always be thought running through your head about what more you should have done or said, and its something you will think about forever, but make it easier on yourself now and let as much as you can out. and just know he will always be with you as my daddy is always with me.
I just lost my dad 2 days ago..December 24th 2009, this day will always be his day! this has been the hadest thing I have delt with and I wish this on no one. it all started with my dad having a heart attack Nov 13th 2009, he had recovered from that but then was admitted again in Decemeber for fluid in his lungs, along with a second heart attack, which became heart and kindey failure. My family and I kept praying and getting our hopes up for my dad to recover, but that did not happen. I am also daddy's little girl so this has been very hard for me. I never thought I would lose my dad at 26 and he was only 54. life is wayy too short, so spend every chance you get with him, I wish I did! I hope that this pain will ease but im not sure if it will ever...
-love you always daddy!
I'm a matured women, daughter of a 24 year old who grew up without her dad. As I walked through the airport on my way to join the family after this unreal devistation - I inwardly yet loudly cried out Daddy, Daddy, Daddy! - feeling 5 years old! But as my dad just passed away - their is no way to describe the feeling - irregardless of our sometimes hard relationship - irregardless of the fact that I have been on my own in many ways for a myrad of years. - How can I now honor his life! And thank him for being the great sweet man that he forever will be and was. - Now he his with his devine maker to be again polished to be his perfect self. - All imperfections must be forgiven - and all his beauty must be cherished forever. - thank you dad.
My dad just died on saturday and its been extremely painful as it happened out of nowhere. He had a seizure on June 7, 2008 and isn't coming back. If I were you I would spend the most wonderful time with him and do nice things for him that he loves. If I got a chance to say my last words to him or see him one more time I'd be the luckiest girl in the world so please dont take for granite the time he is actually here. I am 18 years old and even though my dad suffered with alcoholism, cancer, and emphysema he sure did everything he possibly could to be the best dad and he loved me and my sister so much. Now he can be happy and peaceful and not have to suffer anymore. I am still grieving with my loss.
My dad this time last year was with us alive and active in june 07 we got the news he was given 6 months tops so slowly the months rolled on he hid it so well he made all his arrangements I even went shopping with him on what he would wear on that day .he died all of us around him on a rainy sunday nov 25,200when the guys came to pick him up kenny my brother and I walked beside him his face uncovered getting rain on his face for the last time I cant even explain the pain of that day its been 3 months it still hurts but eases every day I kknow hes home an not in pain laying around waiting to go home hes there. Teresa Bennett thanks god for my dad 39 years
you can never prepare yourself, but try to be unselfish. do not dwell on what will be lost, but be thankful for what you have (or had). I just lost my dad to Alzheimer;s on saturday night. He was at home with us and the help of hospice. We talked to him nonstop eventhough he was comatose. I was hugging him when he took his last breath. it was so peaceful. Everything we dreaded just happened in the blink of an eye, and he was at peace.I can feel for your pain and encourage you to talk to your dad about it. good luck, jill
you can never prepare yourself, but try to be unselfish. do not dwell on what will be lost, but be thankful for what you have (or had). I just lost my dad to Alzheimer;s on saturday night. He was at home with us and the help of hospice. We talked to him nonstop eventhough he was comatose. I was hugging him when he took his last breath. it was so peaceful. Everything we dreaded just happened in the blink of an eye, and he was at peace.I can feel for your pain and encourage you to talk to your dad about it. good luck, jill
I lost my fater on 8/14 and the pain is still as bad today as it was the day he died. I was Daddy's little girl and every day is filled with sadness. I have to force myself to even get dressed in the morning. This is the hardest thing I have ever had to deal with. I have very strong feeling of guilt because I don't feel I spent enough time with him even though I knew he had very little time left I feel that I will never get over this pain.
when I was 5 years old my mom died of cancer. I don't have her now but I have all my memories and pictures. Thats what keeps me going. It might be scary but you have to remember all the good times. Also you have to remember that people do care and that a lot of people wont understand but, some people will. you need to know your never alone. you can cry. but you don't have to be that sad ;)
I was 7 8 or nine when my dad died I was young my grandad died first then my dad died I missed both of them so much today I cried in school because my dad birthday is tomorrow and he is not here with me im having a hard time now if my dad was here my life would be good and make everything better.
I'm sorry to hear about your father. It's never easy especially when you really love them. Cherish every moment and never let them go. Keep him in your heart forever.
