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Yes it is...I would say do what you feel you need to do to make you happy!
If being around those people make you feel like sh!t, offer you is a lifetime of pain, manipulations, drama, unnecessary stress & so forth then cutting them out of your life may be just what you need to do to have a healthier life!
One does not need to wind up in the emergency room due to family members for any circumstance...
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I have had experience in this field...my Aunt was a mean person, to me she was always like a second mother...til she got very ill & decided to get some revenge on my father through me...she pushed as far as turning the entire family against me...and of course because she was such an old/sick woman so they believed her & all turned their backs on me when I needed it the most! I took it really hard because I never did anything wrong to her but she swore to take revenge on my father...and wound up taking it out on me...I was the black sheep...so I decided to get my revenge on all in return. Her daughter, was my best friend in the whole world...since the day I was born we were inseparable growing up & even were each others made of honor in our weddings.
When she too showed me her true colors something in me d!ed. I never spoke to her or anyone else of my relatives again. When her mother passed away I got a call...I called her back & sent her my warmest condolences, what she expected was for me to walk into a lion's den with the whole family there as I walked in just to be there & make peace. I couldnt do that...I felt my condolences were enough after all the sh!t they put me through 2 years prior to that when they all disowned me for no reason. Weather it was right or wrong that I didnt go isnt the issue...I decided that it was my turn to disown them as well...if they could do that to me for no reason, I could do that to them for a great reason! A year or 2 later my cousin tried calling me...wanted to try to work things out...I just couldnt...I felt her throw away over 30 years of the best friendship I had down the drain on the fact that her mother destroyed our relationship but when her husband said something to me...that was the end...he called me up 3x to remind me to pay an additional 50 dollars to my 150 dollars that I was already paying my aunt for sleeping in her apt for 3 weeks...the additional money was because I used the A/C...an A/C my father bought her...because I told him to years prior to then!
Moral of the story is they all turned their backs on me for no reason...tried to manipulate me to talk to them years after that...so I refused...I was happier with them out of my life & til this day her husband(my cousin's husband that asked for the additional 50 dollars) still looks for me on Facebook wondering why wont accept...
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Sometimes, we need to do what is best for us...what makes us happy...not what others want!
Hope this helped.
Yes, it is, in some cases. Some people treat you so bad that it would be very unfair that they get anything from you.
I don't think that a person should be disowned for being nonconformist, for rebellion against family ties of even for bad moral conduct.
But if somebody harms a member of his own family then I think it would be justifiable.
For example if a parent is or has been violent against his or her children, then these children should have the right to disown that parent. Also, they should not be obliged to care for the parent if he or she becomes helpless at high age. Or if a person commits violence crimes against his/her own brother or sister, then the parents of both should disown the criminal child and reserve their entire legacy to benefit the other sibling.
I don't speak to my grandmother (it's a long story). I also choose not to communicate with most of my family. My view point, just because you are related to my parents, does not mean I have to include you in my life. My mother has a different view on this. My father's family treated her like crap. I mean my uncle almost hit her when she was pregnant with me (I take this kinda personally given that my mother almost died trying to carry me) and my mother still talks to him. She thinks family is family at the end of the day. I guess it just depends on how you see things.
i know its really sad =( its like how can someone make the choice to bring a child in this world and neglect the child. Some people only think about themselves and their own being.and i don;t think the people that choice to abort are any better and i think every child or unborn child should have the right to having a good life and to be taken care of. I know someone who got pregnant on purpose and decided she wasn't ready and terminated the pregnancy, it makes me sick.
There isnt really a right circumstance but it depends on the parent if they feel it necessary to disown that child it is of there own choice or personally thought out reason. I have heard of cases were children have been disowned through sexuality and religion. I personally dont believe disown ment is good, if you have a child it should be your responsibility to care, look after and appreciate them despite there faults or bad choices.
Yes of course. Unfortunately we dont get to choose our families and we arent always born into a healthy stable one. As an adult you have every right to choose who should be in your life and who shouldnt be. Just because you are related to a person doesnt mean its a health relationship. Anytime there is emotional abuse, physical abuse, sexual abuse, etc i believe a person has every right to disown a family member.
i agree completely with your statements stefie. i mean i have seen lots of my friends disown a parent because they were never around to give a crap, because their parent was an mad drunk and for not agreeing with the lifestyle choices their parents make such as one parent cheating on the other parent, the parent being a the cause of a divorce or when the parents are divorced and get remarried.
Its a very hard line to walk. We have someone in our family who is an addict of herion. We support her and try our best with her to get her treatment and get her back into college. && she keeps relapsing. We have tried everything kicked her out, all that stuff. I think bottom line isss to not give up, support as much as you can just dont get any hopes up.
I don't really see a problem. "Family" isn't the same as blood to me, so if you don't love your kid and they dont love you then I don't see a problem. If you even think about disowning a family member then it's probably for the best if you do it anyway, in my opinion. It can only make things better.
thankyou, but yes i agree with you aswell too many parents these days dont give $hit about there kids, therefore we have reasons to disown them if we have been neglected.
i disowned my dad 16 years ago he just doesnt know it..
my reason is that ive not seen him for that long and he left my mom to bring up 3 boys on her own.
then yes its the choice of the child, i would love to disown my dad he abused me, i think there are many circumstances were you could disown parents.
with so many options in this world and so many people who can't have children that shouldn't even be thought to people.
i agree with your views 100%, yes its very wrong. The child should at least get a chance.
I would not disown family. Theyre family through and through. Do not overreact.
What about if I wanted to disown my parent?
