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Can he commit?

Been seeing this guy for 7 mo. now when we 1st started messing around neither wanted a relationship, but I assumed this would be on a purely sexual relationship now 7 mo. later we live together but there is NO defined relationship we are exclusive to my knowledge. LOL 

but I have mentioned on several occasions that my feelings for him were strong and he always replies "you know I care about you too" I've threatened to leave him alone and gave him an ultimatum and he reacts by telling me "if I didn’t care about you why would I be living with you" which is true but I want to be able to call him my man.

A little more info. We always talk even when he’s at work, he always answers my phone calls and text no matter where he’s at, if he feels I am seeing someone else he lets it be known that I better not be messing with anyone else. I’ve met his son, father, and step mom, cousin and best friend. He has a have to give me a kiss before he leaves routine, what’s that about? He calls me “baby”, he likes to hang out with my girlfriends, and me and he gives me money when I need it.

And for all those wondering HE COMES HOME EVERYNIGHT!!!

Now I’m confused for someone who doesn’t want a relationship, he sure does act like it, and not to mention when I get in my mood where I feel im tired of being in this what I call “friends w/ benefits” relationship I tell him and I let him know if you cant give me the relationship I want then I’m done, this is your chance to get out! And what does he do? He acts sweet, lovey dovey and all that good stuff and that right there is what keeps me from leaving.

I really do care about him, I feel I am falling in love w/ him so please guys and girls what should I do to make him commit???
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Answer #1

Tell him or even leave one night and show him that your not joking. You seem like a smart girl think of something to show him that you want more or need more than a relationship (aka friends with benefits)

Answer #2

So ask him if you guys are together because if he says you arnt there could be a possibility that hes with somone else to.

Answer #3

I would try to figure out why he is hesitating on giving you the verbal affirmation that you need when he is already giving you other signs…like the kiss and need for you to be faithful to him…if he is seeing other people than it seems hypocritical, but if he is not seeing other people than it seems like he is just scared to admit to what he is already doing.

Lets face it, 7 months is, or should be quite enough time to figure out if you want a relationship with someone…especially if you have been living together.

Females need verbal affirmation from the guy that they are needed. if he doesnt understand or want to give you what you need, when you are already giving him what he needs then he probly doesn care as much as he seems to be showing.

does he say that he loves you or that he cares about you voluntarily…as in not prompted by you? if so then he is probly just scared to admit that he is in a good relationship…if not then he might not care about you, but just want someone to hang around so that he can have sex with them.

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