16 and wants a baby

Why do you want a baby at such a young age? No disrespect, but you’re a baby yourself – you need to enjoy your youth, finish your education and build a successful career.

Very good that you know how to take care of a baby, and very good that you have a boyfriend who makes good money (how much of a good money that is debatable), BUT I think you need to think it through a little bit more as this decision will affect your entire life. Having a baby is a life-long decision, a 24/7 job. You need to think of the “what ifs” in your future. Not that I’m saying it will happen, but what if your boyfriend leaves you halfway in your pregnancy? Who’s going to pay for the crazy expensive hospital bills? How are you going to take care of a baby alone when you need to work to make money? Seeing as you haven’t even finished your education yet, the salary from whatever job you get will barely cut it.

Usually couples sort out everything in their lives before agreeing to settle down to have a baby. They get all their partying, world traveling, and major social activities out of the way because once the baby comes, all your time, effort, and money goes into the baby’s welfare. Are you up for that? I think you should explore the world a little bit more and soak in some culture and experiences before settling down. It’d be a good story to tell the kids too when you’re older and much more ready.

And lastly I have to stress this very important message – Wait until you are BOTH ready. Pressuring him into having a baby when he’s not ready and when you are both so young can possibly drive him away, so please understand his situation and don’t force him. Communication is key. Tell him how you feel about it and listen to his side of the story too. A good couple always compromises their needs and wants for the best of the current situation. So just chill out, sort out YOUR LIFE first (I’m pretty sure that you have some ambitions in life), before bringing the world a new life. :)