Im a 16 year old boy living with strict asian parents. I've heard of pretty bad stories of asian parents being strict and i believe i have it easy but i would still like to know how i could make living with my parents easier other than it being a hassle. I'm not your stereotypical asian boy with good grades and no social life, quite the opposite actually i have decent grades (slacking due to social life) and quite popular but the problem im having with my parents is letting me go out with my friends or inviting them over. My parents are okay once and a while letting me go out with my friends and staying late (midnight maybe a little later) but school has ended and i find myself waking up and doing nothing. I also have a younger brother that i have to babysit while my parents are at work while restricts me from leaving the house and hanging out with my friends. I honestly dont have any freedom, i get invited to lots of things and i always end up being "that guy" who never comes because of my parents. i would just love to invite people over while theyre at work but they always ask my if im inviting guys or girls over and most of the time it is girls because at 16 its kind of weird inviting a bunch of guys over during the day and not leaving your house without booze or something. So when i do invite girls over they instantly have a problem with it, when they are home they are fine with it but not when im alone and i would love to just hang out with my friends during the summer like everyone else. i'm willing to talk to dad (mom doesnt care as long as my dad is okay with it) about it but my dad is pretty stubborn in his ways and even when i want him to explain he doesnt give me a reason and he has really loud voice which kind of scares me. what are somethings i should talk about with him? Any help would be great
Haha..... maaaaaan do I feel like I'm talking to myself in a mirror. Hi I'm Ethan, I'm a devout methodist and at the age of 15 I'm more mature than a majority of adults, BUT, this is one thing I have always struggled with, and it holds me back from ALOT. I'm going to give you advice that I try but struggle following. DO WHAT THEY SAY. DON'T TALK BACK. It's hard, believe me, I know. But it'll make htem loosen up in the longrun, by showing how you're more grown up. It will help YOU get along in life, believe it or not, and it'll help your relationship with the man upstairs. Look at the fifth commandment. The first commandment with a promise. The reason it's that way is because He knew it would be a struggle obeying parents in certain cases, so you got to get something in return once your emancipated. Just keep your cool, and wait it out. It'll be over the second you move out. I deal with this every day. I struggle with obeying and not saying something because my parents make me sick with the way they act. But you got to try man.
what if you were inviting your friends over to work on a project together that your parents approved of? :)