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How do I get my parents to lighten up and let me live?

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I'm 20 years old with a great job and two years left of college. My parents are strict Indian parents and forbid me to do many things. I was not allowed to dorm in college (they claimed it was for financial/cultural reasons) so now I commute every day 1 hour each way. My curfew on the weekdays is 7 pm and I'm only allowed out til 11 on Fridays (and I must be accompanied by my older sister). My older sister, keep in mind, is 2 years older, but has no goals or aspirations in life - she is in and out of college, and seems completely content with living with my parents until she is 40 and going out once a week only until 11 pm. Now here's my dilemma - I met my boyfriend two years ago and we've been inseparable ever since. I sound so naive and young when I say "we're soulmates" but it is true. Given my ridiculous curfew, in high school I would sneak out of my house to go watch movies with him. However, I was caught sneaking out one night and my parents HATE him now. They hate my boyfriend (who is from a different culture that I and who is 7 years my senior). They forbade me from seeing him, yet I continued to. Only recently, I bought my boyfriend an expensive gift for his birthday and my father had seen the purchase on my bank statement. I don't know why he looked through my personal mail, nor do I think he has the right to, but he contacted the computer store and found out that it was mailed to my boyfriend's house. They were very disappointed in me, claimed that I was a pathological liar and threatened me. They told me he was ruining my life and that I live in their house, and I should abide by their rules. My father told me that if I chose to speak to him again, he would disown me. Believe me, if I could communicate with my parents about my boyfriend, I would, but they are strict and cultural and do not believe in dating. Now I sincerely want to move out, not with my boyfriend, but on my own - because I need to be incontrol of my own life, find myself, be independent. I don't want to leave on bad terms with my parents, so I have no idea what to do; and since my older sister is completely satisfied with living at home and enduring their overprotection and ridiculous control, I look as if I am rebelling. Please advise - how do I tell my parents I need to live on my own? How do I get them to accept my boyfriend?