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She does let me date, but no one if they are not japanese. I fell in love with a korean guy and I knew my mother would not be happy about it. I can't leave him.
She's just watching out for your really. Most boys at this age tend to want a girlfriend mostly for sex and aren't looking for a real relationship. Her heart's in the right place, trying to protect her girl. I know plenty of parents like that. Mine wouldn't let me date until I was in university (18). They didn't like the idea of other races (I'm asian). I, however, started dating at 16 and with a guy who was white/Portuguese. My parents did eventually accept it though. What I did was, I brought Mike around a lot, as a friend. They slowly got to know him, and then eventually they accepted him as my boyfriend. I think they actually even sort of like him now haha, but that might only be because we've been together for around 3 years. What I'm saying is, your parents worry for you, they know how boys are like especially at this age. Some parents are a lot more old fashioned when it comes to the race thing. In the end they are your parents, and whoever you choose to end up with they will accept.
Yeah i agree, parents are very overprotective. Think about it, was your mother brought up in the same way with the same rules? Is she happy with her partner? If the answer is yes then maybe she thinks that is the best way to go about life, she thinks its the stress-free way as it is familiar to her. If the answer is no then she may be trying to get you to take a different path to her, maybe the one she wishes she had taken. Who knows? You really need to have a sit down with your mom and talk things through, it might work. And if she sees how much you care for him she may accept the fact that she cannot choose who you fall in love with. You may even be able to introduce them, so she can get to know how nice he really is, or even get the parent to meet and discuss it if it will help. Make sure to always ask your mom first of course..don't just have them turn up at the door step!Well hope this helps you in some way or another.. :)
Mothers can become overprotective to make sure that their children will be sapred from heartaches and problems. It may really be awful to fall in love with a guy that your mom doesn't favor but you should not worry too much about it because you are still young and you will have enough time to prove that there are lots of better guys other than Japanese men. Koreans are really charming but aside from falling in love this is the best time to enjoy your youth experiment on clothes and makeup, wear fashion accessories from http://funadvice.com/r/158judqvrol, and have the best time wqhile making sure that you will be able to show your parents that you are capable of making the right decisions.
parents are overprotective. my mother will not let me date till im 16. she just doesnt want the guy to take advantage of you. even if he doesnt intend to, shes still going to be worried. my father wants me to marry a croatian boy, have catholic croatian speaking kids too. that wont be happening. i just its just keeping the same race flowing, my father doesnt like the thought of mixed babies. but a lot of parents are like that, so your not the only one. dont let it get to you.
Your parents seem protective . Probably only trust japanese people maybe . I agree with the other comments too . I my mom doesn't want me to date till I'm like 30 probably haha . But I'd trust your parents opinions becaus they are only doing what's best fr you . You can date without telling them , but trust me , it's pree boring and you never get to see each other other than work/school .
It's just because your parents don't want their culture to die out. Origins are very important to some people and so they want their children to continue all their cultural event and things. The only thing you can do it tell them that you understand how they feel but you want to find a soul mate not a cultural partner
That's odd that you can date, but only Japanese. My dad told me I'm not allowed to date a black guy and look at me I kinda am......lol. Do what feels right, and I'm sure your mom loves you and will love you no matter who your with. But don't let your mom run off your bf if you truly care for him.
She's just being very protective, with so many bad things that you hear about each day, in so many situations. I wouldn't be surprised if I'm also very protective to the max with my children. This world is becoming so aweful!!!
Well maybe thats why? Shes on familiar territory or may even be jealous of you if you had more choice.. just follow your heart and im sure your mom will accept your choice if you really do care for him:)
Sorry ddn't read the bit underneath. i'm gurssing she wants you to fall in love with someone of the same orgin and culture. So that your kids and family will have the same values and traditions.
The thing is, some boys do want a long lasting, good relationship (like me...) Got to be careful who you choose nowadays.......:(
i know, but your parents will not have that message in their head. well, i know mine wouldnt.
Thank you, I'm sure some of these accessories will add some color to my black clotes (^_^)
He is really chilvarious so I don't think he will take advantage of me
She was brought up like that.
black guys are hawt. xD
dats riqht .!!
yes they are
Haha ikr!:)
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