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Why do people ask if they're gay?

I’ve been reading through this site for a while, and I’ve found a reoccurring question that concerns me: Am I gay? This question is not for the general public to decide, it’s a question you’re going to have to answer yourself. I’m gay, and its something that I struggled with for my whole life. I knew from a young age that I was different, but didn’t understand it untill I was in high school. You don’t have to know for sure when you’re 13 or 14. So to all the curious/confused guys/girls out there: take your time deciding, if you have questions of how to deal with your own acceptance of your sexuality, feel free to ask…just don’t let other people tell you your sexuality.

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Answer #1

Sexuality isnt always simple or clear cut, and society likes to make it out to be. You’re either homosexual, or hetrosexual and you figure out pretty early which sex you like and you stick to it. It would be really great if it was that simple, but its not… And so when people start to think about these things, they want simple answers to their question. Does having dreams about the same sex make you gay, does having a crush on a friend make you gay, does being attracted to a movie star make you gay etc etc… But there’s no simple answer to the question… It’s not nice not having an answer because we all like to be able to define ourselves, and I mean think of it this way, your entire life you’ve thought you were one thing, and now you might be something else? I’ve asked the question before, maybe not here, but its confusing to suddenly be thinking these thoughts… Its simpler if its something you’ve kinda sorta known since you were young, but it gets confusing if it’s something that comes out of nowhere…

Answer #2

it because some people are just confused bout there sexuality I went thorugh it , and some people just feel like they need to ask other people if they think there gay! xxx

Answer #3

I understand the questions we ask ourselves, I’ve spent years of my life asking them to myself…but I never wanted other people to define me…it’s an internal battle that only the person who’s going through it can truly figure out…I’m not sure that other peoples’ opinions matter at all…

side not: I personally don’t give a damn what society thinks

Answer #4

Dear unchosenlove, Until society catches up with science this question will always be asked. We know now with all certainty that our sexual preference is not a choice. So when a young person feels that they may be gay it can be a terrible blow to themselves and to their family. Wishing it isn’t so does not make it so. Now we have a generation of youngsters who question their sexuality. They also question their weight, their eye colour etc. It may take generations before our society will accept the truth and until then we will always have questions. Sue…good luck

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