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When should I confront her?

Let me start from the start..

So I knew this girl early on and I liked her but I found out she was taken. We have been the best of friends, we basically hanged out everyday of the week, im each other everyday for hours on till end, and we had a lot in common. She also knew I liked her by a game of truth and dare. 12 days ago she comes to me and says that she was breaking up with her boyfriend and that she likes me. She told me that we should take things slow because she does not want to go into a relationship right away. Between 12 days ago and today, we’ve been holding hands and hugging secretly and out of nowhere she comes and says that we should just be friends. She says that she doesnt want to be in a relationship for awhile and says that she does not want anything to change between us.

I really want to be with her so when should I go confront her?

I’ve been thinking that I wanted to tell her how much I care about her and that I will be willing to wait a very long time until she is ready. I wanted to ask her to rethink her decision.

She didnt break up with her boyfriend just yet, but she says that she will break up with him without a doubt.

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Answer #1

sounds to me like she cant make up her mind about who she wants and if you confront her you may just push her away even more the best thing you can do is pretend that it doesnt bother you but still be there when she needs a hug or what ever casue that way you are still in the game at least

Answer #2

thanks for the advice. I told her that I am ok with her not wanting to be with me at the moment. I told her that I know that she does not need a relationship right now and that she needs a friend to be there for her. I said that I will be that friend.

hopefully we can get together sometime in the future.

when she told me that we should just be friends, I broke down. at home I cried for a really long time and couldnt eat nor sleep. the very next day I realized that I was thinking the wrong way about the situation. I wanted her for myself and then I started to think what will make her happy. thinking about her current relationship and how its going to end soon, im sad because shes going to go through a hard time and I want to be there for her. but knowing that she wanted to break up with me and I accepted that fact made me feel…ok.

im serious though, just yesterday I wanted to commit suicide but today im a whole new person.

did I move on? am I in denial? am I just a happy person?

or am I just happy because shes happy that she has one less issue to deal with..

iono its confusing.

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