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Why do teachers care if lesbians have PDAs?

I’m a lesbian and I’m going out(kinda) with a really cool girl but the only time I can be around her is during school. This wouldn’t be so bad(since we somehow manage to see each other a lot) but the school officials and stuff won’t let us do ANYTHING to each other. I mean, we’re not having sex in the halls or anything. All we do is hug or hold hands(in front of people anyway) but we got called into the office and were told that ‘That’s PDA and you can’t do it.’ They got so weird about it that now I’m not allowed to touch her hair, hug, kiss, hold hands, be in close proximity, etc. Basically anything that says that we’re a couple. And yet every day I walk past straight couples making out in front of teachers who never get in trouble. I mean what the f*ck?! And when I pointed this out they said only that they’re ‘working on decreasing that.’ Yet, oddly enough I see even more people kissing now…^_^;;; Anyway, does anyone have any advice or comments about the subject..?

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Answer #1

Yeah, I see this all the time. The teachers are only mildly annoyed at the straight couples practically doing it in the middle of the hallway, but bring gay couples into the office for holding hands. It’s a lot like how on the sidewalk, gay couples are accused of “flaunting it” when they hold hands. It’s just plain stupid. Lesbians/gay guys don’t show any more or less than straight couples, usually. It didn’t sound like you were shoving it in anyone’s face, so I don’t know what the problem is!

Answer #2

to be honest if you were to make them say a obvious homophobic remark in public you could get them done and hopefully replaced by someone more open minded

Answer #3

well I don’t know why they care… you should have your rights to hug & such,.. my school let’s us display PDA… some teachers say no kissing but we do it anyways.. I think you should protest it or something…

Answer #4

Ugh,

The teachers care because people are closed-minded and uncomfortable with things they don’t understand, or that is considered “taboo”.

I think religion also contributes greatly to hate toward gay people. It’s sad.

Answer #5

When I went to school PDA was severely frowned upon with any couple, no matter what their sexual preference. It’s very low class, and people don’t want to see that.

And yes, if a lesbian couple does it, then it will get more attention because it is a lot more rare than if a heterosexual couple was doing it.

Just because you can only see each other at school, doesn’t mean everyone has to be subjected to you touching each other no matter if you are gay or not.

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